"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bitteorca

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Aight everyone

I have a first date set up for saturday. However, I have no idea what to do. Cinema = sitting in silence for a few hours. not good for a first date. I find it a bit awkward even when I've been out with a girl quite a few times. The other option is go for a drink. but this involves sitting with her, just me and her, for a few hours. If convo runs a bit dry, this could go pear shaped as well. I'm not a massive talker. I can obviously hold a convo, but just me and some girl I don't know at all, I dunno...

Any other ideas/input?

Thanks guys
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Scion

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1. Make any excuse to get her back to either your place or her's
2. Escalate shamelessly
3. Bang the **** out of her
4. ????
5. Profit
 

AmIAFC

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Personally, I like to take them to a fun spot that serves food and has an event or play area. Something like a karaoke night and trivia night, or a mini-golf/bowling/billiards area to supplement a good dining experience.

Reason being is that these things can get both of you physically or mentally charged, making for a pretty memorable night that can possibly kick start something more that evening.

Do a search of all the spots in your town, and check out what they have for that evening. It's a good idea and an excellent diversion to help shroud your verbal communication deficiencies. :)
 

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AmIAFC said:
Personally, I like to take them to a fun spot that serves food and has an event or play area. Something like a karaoke night and trivia night, or a mini-golf/bowling/billiards area to supplement a good dining experience.

Reason being is that these things can get both of you physically or mentally charged, making for a pretty memorable night that can possibly kick start something more that evening.

Do a search of all the spots in your town, and check out what they have for that evening. It's a good idea and an excellent diversion to help shroud your verbal communication deficiencies. :)
Agreed, playing pool would be nice, like you said go get drinks...just keep her talking, the alcohol will do the rest lol. Don't get too drunk though. Find a cool part of town with a lot of trendy shops and whatnot, maybe an outdoor concert, a carnival, that sort of thing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Comedy club. Good laughter, time to talk and surrounded by a good atmosphere. Always a winner.
 

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JCB said:
Comedy club. Good laughter, time to talk and surrounded by a good atmosphere. Always a winner.
Unless a comedian roasts on you. At which point you better have funny, witty comebacks!
 
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