"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bitteorca

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Aight everyone

I have a first date set up for saturday. However, I have no idea what to do. Cinema = sitting in silence for a few hours. not good for a first date. I find it a bit awkward even when I've been out with a girl quite a few times. The other option is go for a drink. but this involves sitting with her, just me and her, for a few hours. If convo runs a bit dry, this could go pear shaped as well. I'm not a massive talker. I can obviously hold a convo, but just me and some girl I don't know at all, I dunno...

Any other ideas/input?

Thanks guys
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Scion

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1. Make any excuse to get her back to either your place or her's
2. Escalate shamelessly
3. Bang the **** out of her
4. ????
5. Profit
 

AmIAFC

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Personally, I like to take them to a fun spot that serves food and has an event or play area. Something like a karaoke night and trivia night, or a mini-golf/bowling/billiards area to supplement a good dining experience.

Reason being is that these things can get both of you physically or mentally charged, making for a pretty memorable night that can possibly kick start something more that evening.

Do a search of all the spots in your town, and check out what they have for that evening. It's a good idea and an excellent diversion to help shroud your verbal communication deficiencies. :)
 

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AmIAFC said:
Personally, I like to take them to a fun spot that serves food and has an event or play area. Something like a karaoke night and trivia night, or a mini-golf/bowling/billiards area to supplement a good dining experience.

Reason being is that these things can get both of you physically or mentally charged, making for a pretty memorable night that can possibly kick start something more that evening.

Do a search of all the spots in your town, and check out what they have for that evening. It's a good idea and an excellent diversion to help shroud your verbal communication deficiencies. :)
Agreed, playing pool would be nice, like you said go get drinks...just keep her talking, the alcohol will do the rest lol. Don't get too drunk though. Find a cool part of town with a lot of trendy shops and whatnot, maybe an outdoor concert, a carnival, that sort of thing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Comedy club. Good laughter, time to talk and surrounded by a good atmosphere. Always a winner.
 

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JCB said:
Comedy club. Good laughter, time to talk and surrounded by a good atmosphere. Always a winner.
Unless a comedian roasts on you. At which point you better have funny, witty comebacks!
 
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