"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sandman6991

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I met this girl (Brittany) at the pool Thursday, talked to her a little in the group she was in, because I know one of her friends. I went back to the pool today, and again, didn't talk to her much at all, just got her name, introuduced myself, and said I had to get going, but I'd text her. I got her number in literally 15 seconds, because I actually did have to go. One of my other friends (Rachel) is friends with her, and it turns out Brittany texted Rachel and told her about me...and Rachel thinks Brittany's interested and I should get to know her better.

Screw that, I'm going to probably text her tomorrow and set up a date for this week. I've had a few ideas, but need input on what's the best thing to do now...

First...should it be a single, one-on-one date, or a group date with another couple?

Here are some date ideas I've had:
Putt-Putt and eat
Picnic at the park
drive-in movies and eat
outdoor concert festival thing, it's free and pretty popular with some big name artists (it would require like a 20 min. drive though)

Ideas? Help would be appreciated...I'd hate to make progress with this chick and screw it up so soon!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sandman6991

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Tomorrow may be too soon to spring for a date...but I'd almost rather be too agressive than to not make a move
 

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I'd CALL her and forget the text messaging.

I say go play putt putt, shoot pool, bowl or do something with action involved AND then get something to eat.........movies and concerts in my experience have not been the best places to go on first dates, you can't talk and interact with the girl near as much in those circumstances
 

DonJuan11

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sandman6991 said:
I met this girl (Brittany) at the pool Thursday, talked to her a little in the group she was in, because I know one of her friends. I went back to the pool today, and again, didn't talk to her much at all, just got her name, introuduced myself, and said I had to get going, but I'd text her. I got her number in literally 15 seconds, because I actually did have to go. One of my other friends (Rachel) is friends with her, and it turns out Brittany texted Rachel and told her about me...and Rachel thinks Brittany's interested and I should get to know her better.

Screw that, I'm going to probably text her tomorrow and set up a date for this week. I've had a few ideas, but need input on what's the best thing to do now...

First...should it be a single, one-on-one date, or a group date with another couple?

Here are some date ideas I've had:
Putt-Putt and eat
Picnic at the park
drive-in movies and eat
outdoor concert festival thing, it's free and pretty popular with some big name artists (it would require like a 20 min. drive though)

Ideas? Help would be appreciated...I'd hate to make progress with this chick and screw it up so soon!
Whoa dude. First: the date should be ONE on ONE. I never understand guys who want a group date or another couple. Why would you risk having another guy there who she can fall in love with? You don't want her to be distracted in anyway whatsoever with any other couple or gorup. It should be ONE on ONE by yourselves, and not a 10 hour date either.

Why is Rachel telling you to text Brittany? Why is it any of Rachel's business? She could have told everything she knows about you to Brittany and she won't go on a date with you since she knows everything. Tell Rachel its none of her business.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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rushing dude 123

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In my opinion i think they all sound like good ideas, but not sure about drive through, depending on if ur doing something other than watching the movie.
 
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