"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sandman6991

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I met this girl (Brittany) at the pool Thursday, talked to her a little in the group she was in, because I know one of her friends. I went back to the pool today, and again, didn't talk to her much at all, just got her name, introuduced myself, and said I had to get going, but I'd text her. I got her number in literally 15 seconds, because I actually did have to go. One of my other friends (Rachel) is friends with her, and it turns out Brittany texted Rachel and told her about me...and Rachel thinks Brittany's interested and I should get to know her better.

Screw that, I'm going to probably text her tomorrow and set up a date for this week. I've had a few ideas, but need input on what's the best thing to do now...

First...should it be a single, one-on-one date, or a group date with another couple?

Here are some date ideas I've had:
Putt-Putt and eat
Picnic at the park
drive-in movies and eat
outdoor concert festival thing, it's free and pretty popular with some big name artists (it would require like a 20 min. drive though)

Ideas? Help would be appreciated...I'd hate to make progress with this chick and screw it up so soon!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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sandman6991

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Tomorrow may be too soon to spring for a date...but I'd almost rather be too agressive than to not make a move
 

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I'd CALL her and forget the text messaging.

I say go play putt putt, shoot pool, bowl or do something with action involved AND then get something to eat.........movies and concerts in my experience have not been the best places to go on first dates, you can't talk and interact with the girl near as much in those circumstances
 

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sandman6991 said:
I met this girl (Brittany) at the pool Thursday, talked to her a little in the group she was in, because I know one of her friends. I went back to the pool today, and again, didn't talk to her much at all, just got her name, introuduced myself, and said I had to get going, but I'd text her. I got her number in literally 15 seconds, because I actually did have to go. One of my other friends (Rachel) is friends with her, and it turns out Brittany texted Rachel and told her about me...and Rachel thinks Brittany's interested and I should get to know her better.

Screw that, I'm going to probably text her tomorrow and set up a date for this week. I've had a few ideas, but need input on what's the best thing to do now...

First...should it be a single, one-on-one date, or a group date with another couple?

Here are some date ideas I've had:
Putt-Putt and eat
Picnic at the park
drive-in movies and eat
outdoor concert festival thing, it's free and pretty popular with some big name artists (it would require like a 20 min. drive though)

Ideas? Help would be appreciated...I'd hate to make progress with this chick and screw it up so soon!
Whoa dude. First: the date should be ONE on ONE. I never understand guys who want a group date or another couple. Why would you risk having another guy there who she can fall in love with? You don't want her to be distracted in anyway whatsoever with any other couple or gorup. It should be ONE on ONE by yourselves, and not a 10 hour date either.

Why is Rachel telling you to text Brittany? Why is it any of Rachel's business? She could have told everything she knows about you to Brittany and she won't go on a date with you since she knows everything. Tell Rachel its none of her business.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In my opinion i think they all sound like good ideas, but not sure about drive through, depending on if ur doing something other than watching the movie.
 
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