"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
first date
- Thread starter nosmirk
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
what to talk about ???
ffs your going to a concert ,talk about the guys playing , talk about what your last concert was , talk about lots of things.... read the dj bible....
talk about anything.. well not anything but just start a convo and see if she gets interested, if she doesn't seem interested it's probably because your being defensive/nervousnosmirk said:
if you do find yourself nervous just take a deep breath - LOOK AT HER and ask her what she's thinking about
Kings_royalty
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Ask her about her day and 'listen' to what she says. You can pick anything she says and turn it nto a fun topic.
nvictor
Senior Don Juan
"Your hair makes you look like a powerpuff girl" Now that's making fun of her."She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.