Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
FYI, I went to an early showing of Happy Feet last night and it's no Toy Story. Potions of it were a bit deep and it actually troubled some of the younger kids in the audience. You may want to consider having something fun and upbeat to do after the movie.DJinTraining06 said:Yea she picked the whole happy feet idea. I dont like movies as dates, unless its my gf. Im gonna suggest drinks. Altho its gonna be perfect dinner time, so i may not be able to avoid that. Think drinks r good?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia said:FYI, I went to an early showing of Happy Feet last night and it's no Toy Story. Potions of it were a bit deep and it actually troubled some of the younger kids in the audience. You may want to consider having something fun and upbeat to do after the movie.
logicallefty said:Given that you met her online, go a little easy on her with the friend thing.. There really are a lot of freaks online and the woman just needs to make sure you aren't a psycho threat, and having a friend with her is protection in her mind.. Don't let her pull it on you for the second date but for the first I'd let it slide.. Who knows, you may like the friend better :-D
mrRuckus said:There aren't any more freaks online than in the rest of life. She meets you in public and she's fine. She doesn't need a friend. What if she asked if her mom could come?
If you're psycho you'd just kill both of them instead anyway. Even if both came they should still be meeting you in a public place. At which point i still don't get it because some psycho is going to appear completely normal until he gets the girl in private anyway. He could just wait till the second date or until he's lulled the friend into false security and she goes home.
Ever see those newscasts after some crazy murderer gets caught? All the neighbors: "he was always the nicest guy. i wouldn't think he could do something like that in a million years."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well if u live in fantasy land yes, but in real life the odds of a menage a toia (however u spell it) are very low, and the odds of banging her firend instead of her are low too. Unless they r super skankmasters.Grandmaster Sexay said:I would have agreed instantly. Two is better than one.
Who knows. Considering you haven't met them yet, they could may well turn out to be super skankmasters, especially is one is rather caper.DJinTraining06 said:Well if u live in fantasy land yes, but in real life the odds of a menage a toia (however u spell it) are very low, and the odds of banging her firend instead of her are low too. Unless they r super skankmasters.
Grandmaster Sexay said:Who knows. Considering you haven't met them yet, they could may well turn out to be super skankmasters, especially is one is rather caper.
I kid you not. It wasn't bad but people expected something much different. The previews doesn't depict what the movie is really about.DJinTraining06 said:happy feet was troubling? lol r u kididng?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.