She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
FYI, I went to an early showing of Happy Feet last night and it's no Toy Story. Potions of it were a bit deep and it actually troubled some of the younger kids in the audience. You may want to consider having something fun and upbeat to do after the movie.DJinTraining06 said:Yea she picked the whole happy feet idea. I dont like movies as dates, unless its my gf. Im gonna suggest drinks. Altho its gonna be perfect dinner time, so i may not be able to avoid that. Think drinks r good?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia said:FYI, I went to an early showing of Happy Feet last night and it's no Toy Story. Potions of it were a bit deep and it actually troubled some of the younger kids in the audience. You may want to consider having something fun and upbeat to do after the movie.
logicallefty said:Given that you met her online, go a little easy on her with the friend thing.. There really are a lot of freaks online and the woman just needs to make sure you aren't a psycho threat, and having a friend with her is protection in her mind.. Don't let her pull it on you for the second date but for the first I'd let it slide.. Who knows, you may like the friend better :-D
mrRuckus said:There aren't any more freaks online than in the rest of life. She meets you in public and she's fine. She doesn't need a friend. What if she asked if her mom could come?
If you're psycho you'd just kill both of them instead anyway. Even if both came they should still be meeting you in a public place. At which point i still don't get it because some psycho is going to appear completely normal until he gets the girl in private anyway. He could just wait till the second date or until he's lulled the friend into false security and she goes home.
Ever see those newscasts after some crazy murderer gets caught? All the neighbors: "he was always the nicest guy. i wouldn't think he could do something like that in a million years."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well if u live in fantasy land yes, but in real life the odds of a menage a toia (however u spell it) are very low, and the odds of banging her firend instead of her are low too. Unless they r super skankmasters.Grandmaster Sexay said:I would have agreed instantly. Two is better than one.
Who knows. Considering you haven't met them yet, they could may well turn out to be super skankmasters, especially is one is rather caper.DJinTraining06 said:Well if u live in fantasy land yes, but in real life the odds of a menage a toia (however u spell it) are very low, and the odds of banging her firend instead of her are low too. Unless they r super skankmasters.
Grandmaster Sexay said:Who knows. Considering you haven't met them yet, they could may well turn out to be super skankmasters, especially is one is rather caper.
I kid you not. It wasn't bad but people expected something much different. The previews doesn't depict what the movie is really about.DJinTraining06 said:happy feet was troubling? lol r u kididng?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.