"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First Date Tips

LonelyGuy2k4

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Well this is my first time posting on this board but here it goes. I want to know whats appropriate to do on the first date. Its pretty sad because it would actually be my first date ever. So I really don't know what to do. I thought at most I would try and hold her hand during the movie but Im afraid she'll freak or something. Anyone got advice on this subject? It would really help me out. Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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squirrels

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Don't try to plan ahead of time "how far you're going to get". Instead, engage her, see how she responds to you, and escalate where you feel the both of you are comfortable with escalation.
 

LuisGarcia10

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I've gotta say mate, I don't think a movie is the best place to go for a first date.

It's easier, I find, to go for a drink or something where you can talk to her and slip in a few DJ tactics. Then she'll usually be wanting the kino to come on, as apose to you grabbing her hand out of the blue which might actually freak her out.

If I were you I'd suggest going for something to eat or drink either before or after the movie, before would probably be better because if you can start the kino before the movie then it's unlikely she'd be freaked out if you held her hand during the movie.
 

chicksrock

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look it doesn't matter

what is more important that you are smooth cool and confident ...

thats the underlying thing you need
 

Dukester

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movie isnt really a good place 4 a 1st date. i do movie/dinner sometimes. it works w/ some girls, others it just doesnt feel right.

n e way:

you just gotta play things as they go, you cant plan how things happen, b/c they almost never happen that way.

stop planning, just be cool, smooth, and knock her off her feet. you'll know how to react
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DJ_Dork

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the movie/dinner date is usually a no-no.. but there are those chicks.. the rare ones that enjoy talking and being enthusiastic about the movie.

if you're going to do a movie, make sure it's action/comedy/romance variety.. nothing horror or romantic - save that for later.
 

Chrispy

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork
the movie/dinner date is usually a no-no.. but there are those chicks.. the rare ones that enjoy talking and being enthusiastic about the movie.

if you're going to do a movie, make sure it's action/comedy/romance variety.. nothing horror or romantic - save that for later.
Sex and the City said it best when Carrie notes that it's a couple on their 3rd date.
Generally a good date is a casual one like a coffee or something very simple...something where both parties can make a quick and easy exit, instead of a night of agony.
 
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