"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First Date Set-up Call

the_m@n

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Hey guys.

I got out of a long term relationship and am back in the dating world, however I am a little rusty... I will accept the fact that I was a dummy for getting into a long term relationship and leave it at that.

Anyway, I number closed a cutie I was dancing with at the bar over the weekend and called to set up the first date. Now here is the interesting part:

I called but no answer so I hung up. She calls me back about 40 minutes later (caught me off guard cuz football was on) and I answer her call. I proceeded to set up the first date and I am picking her up at her house this weekend. (Important to know: She got my number when I got hers so she knew it was me that called)

My question is... did I do the right thing here?

I wasn't expecting the call back and I was planning on calling her in a few days. Was I correct in picking up the phone? or did I make some mistake? I am concerned because I want to make sure that I don't repeat the error (if there was one) when I set up more first dates with other women.

Thanks. Still trying to re-learn.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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the_m@n said:
Hey guys.

I got out of a long term relationship and am back in the dating world, however I am a little rusty... I will accept the fact that I was a dummy for getting into a long term relationship and leave it at that.

Anyway, I number closed a cutie I was dancing with at the bar over the weekend and called to set up the first date. Now here is the interesting part:

I called but no answer so I hung up. She calls me back about 40 minutes later (caught me off guard cuz football was on) and I answer her call. I proceeded to set up the first date and I am picking her up at her house this weekend. (Important to know: She got my number when I got hers so she knew it was me that called)

My question is... did I do the right thing here?

I wasn't expecting the call back and I was planning on calling her in a few days. Was I correct in picking up the phone? or did I make some mistake? I am concerned because I want to make sure that I don't repeat the error (if there was one) when I set up more first dates with other women.

Thanks. Still trying to re-learn.
You're over-analyzing this. You did nothing wrong. You have a date, no need to worry.
 

Thundernuts

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First off ( i know i am setting myself up to get attacked here) but there is nothing wrong with having an actual long term relationship. Some people just think there is.

Sounds like you did everything okay, the date is set. If she cancels give her the benefit of the doubt, if she does it again then next her ass and keep going nothing to it.
 

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I had the same situation. I called today she didn't pick up and I hung up and she called 10 minutes later 2 times. But I missed the call cause I was driving. Should I call her back the same day or in a few days?
 

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YThanks guys. As far as escalararoyals situation is concerned I would wait. Keep her guessing on when you are going to call. She will be thinking about you and wondering when you are going to call. Will put you in better control I think.
Good luck.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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