"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First Date Set-up Call

the_m@n

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Hey guys.

I got out of a long term relationship and am back in the dating world, however I am a little rusty... I will accept the fact that I was a dummy for getting into a long term relationship and leave it at that.

Anyway, I number closed a cutie I was dancing with at the bar over the weekend and called to set up the first date. Now here is the interesting part:

I called but no answer so I hung up. She calls me back about 40 minutes later (caught me off guard cuz football was on) and I answer her call. I proceeded to set up the first date and I am picking her up at her house this weekend. (Important to know: She got my number when I got hers so she knew it was me that called)

My question is... did I do the right thing here?

I wasn't expecting the call back and I was planning on calling her in a few days. Was I correct in picking up the phone? or did I make some mistake? I am concerned because I want to make sure that I don't repeat the error (if there was one) when I set up more first dates with other women.

Thanks. Still trying to re-learn.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Korrupt

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the_m@n said:
Hey guys.

I got out of a long term relationship and am back in the dating world, however I am a little rusty... I will accept the fact that I was a dummy for getting into a long term relationship and leave it at that.

Anyway, I number closed a cutie I was dancing with at the bar over the weekend and called to set up the first date. Now here is the interesting part:

I called but no answer so I hung up. She calls me back about 40 minutes later (caught me off guard cuz football was on) and I answer her call. I proceeded to set up the first date and I am picking her up at her house this weekend. (Important to know: She got my number when I got hers so she knew it was me that called)

My question is... did I do the right thing here?

I wasn't expecting the call back and I was planning on calling her in a few days. Was I correct in picking up the phone? or did I make some mistake? I am concerned because I want to make sure that I don't repeat the error (if there was one) when I set up more first dates with other women.

Thanks. Still trying to re-learn.
You're over-analyzing this. You did nothing wrong. You have a date, no need to worry.
 

Thundernuts

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First off ( i know i am setting myself up to get attacked here) but there is nothing wrong with having an actual long term relationship. Some people just think there is.

Sounds like you did everything okay, the date is set. If she cancels give her the benefit of the doubt, if she does it again then next her ass and keep going nothing to it.
 

escaleraroyal

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I had the same situation. I called today she didn't pick up and I hung up and she called 10 minutes later 2 times. But I missed the call cause I was driving. Should I call her back the same day or in a few days?
 

the_m@n

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YThanks guys. As far as escalararoyals situation is concerned I would wait. Keep her guessing on when you are going to call. She will be thinking about you and wondering when you are going to call. Will put you in better control I think.
Good luck.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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