“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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First Date Report: Middle School Teacher

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5'2" Brunette (8) 29 Years old =\

We met at a piano bar for a drink and chit chatted for a while. She mentions how she wanted to try new exciting things, but given her age, she is on the cusp where settling down is a must. I lead the conversation with mostly talking about 'the future.'

- Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
- Do you see yourself doing anything else for work?
- Has owning a house came across your mind?

The mature talk. Good eye contact, pupils dilated - although no kino. My interest level in her increased tenfold when she said she didn't have a smartphone and rarely uses her phone.

Once she saw that I was goal oriented and mature, my plan was to engage her excitement side. I simply said, let's do something fun. When she agreed, I signed the check and headed towards the exit, assuming she was following. Next was checking to see if I had built enough comfort for her to hop in my car. Check.

We arrived at a low budget amusement park. Went sh!tty go kart racing, the ones that go 10 miles an hour with mothers driving their toddlers. I gave her a few high fives and stuck my hand out there to see if she would hold on to it, nada.

I just spent 2 hours with this chick and don't even know her attraction level. I said fvck it, either it's going to work or it isn't. After a game of air hockey, I went in for the kiss. I caught the side of her mouth, but she was smiling and said something very incoherent (I forgot.)

Throughout the night, when I initiated kino, she would reciprocate (ie: putting my hands around her waist, she would do the same) She would initiate as well. That kiss opened the floodgates, I would have never known unless I went for it.

I dropped her back at her car after a 5 HOUR first date. When I put it in park, she started rambling how she had a good time, if I wanted to hang out again, text her, etc for almost a minute. I pulled her neck in a gave her and french kissed her while massaging the nape of her neck.

After, she was just fvcking staring into space, not even at me, but at nothing for 30 seconds. This chick was in a trance. She snapped out of it and went in for a kiss. Of course I denied =)

She owes me a favor from a mini golf wager. I'm trying to think of something that will lead me back to her place next date.

Moral of the story, if you don't know where you stand with a given chick, kiss her. Lob that fvcking sh!t.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Both great contributions from DJ and Social...

Go for the kiss in the middle of the date...never at the end.

1.) You avoid the awkward "Is he going to kiss me/Is he not going to kiss me"

2.) Since you already got the kiss...the end of date = makeout instead of the first kiss(peck).
 
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I have a week long business trip on Thursday so I decided to strike when the iron was hot. Texted her yesterday.

Are you free Tuesday?
No response.

Number deleted.

I got 2 first dates lined up tomorrow and one for Wednesday.
 

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BeginningDJ said:
I have a week long business trip on Thursday so I decided to strike when the iron was hot. Texted her yesterday.

Are you free Tuesday?
No response.

Number deleted.

I got 2 first dates lined up tomorrow and one for Wednesday.
I have a couple questions. What was the reasoning for deleting the number? Was it so you wouldn't text her again? What happens if she gets back to you within the next few days? Or booty texts you this weekend?

I understand you're not going to put up with that behavior.....so if she texts you and you're not sure if it's her or not are you just going to ignore it? Why so easy to delete? She said herself she doesn't use her phone that much.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
I have a couple questions. What was the reasoning for deleting the number? Was it so you wouldn't text her again? What happens if she gets back to you within the next few days? Or booty texts you this weekend?

I understand you're not going to put up with that behavior.....so if she texts you and you're not sure if it's her or not are you just going to ignore it? Why so easy to delete? She said herself she doesn't use her phone that much.
Deleting her number is my way of closing the book on a prospect. It puts her out of my peripherals so I can focus on other prospects. Perhaps like going No Contact with your ex. Out of sight, out of mind.

Even if she texts me back today, tomorrow or next week, the dating process is interrupted and starts back at Square One.

Regardless of what she says about using their phones, women don't wear watches.

How do they check time?
 

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I see, but if she texts you back eventually, don't you want to know it's her? I'm wondering because I want to do the same thing sometimes. It's an empowering feeling erasing a girls number. You're right, it does get her out of your mind so to say, at least to the point where you're somewhat not waiting/expecting to hear from her and it does allow you to put her behind you and focus on other things.

The only thing that stops me is the possibility or probability that she will text me back eventually. I'd like to know who it is that's texting me. Also, to erase a number after only one non-response could come across as a jaded and/or emotional response to not getting a reply.
 

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Deleting her number is my way of closing the book on a prospect. It puts her out of my peripherals so I can focus on other prospects.

I dont know...it almost hits me like your taking the "easy way out". Like I dont know why you have to delete the number to put her out of mind? Just dont text her again. For me...i RARELY delete numbers because youd be surprised who will hit you up after weeks, months, even a year of not talking to her. I dont think you mean to do it as a way to avoid blowing up her phone....but if your standards are so high that a girl that doesnt IMMEDIATELY return your text, gets "NEXT-ED"....well then....prepare to be disappointed often.
 
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TheException said:
I dont know...it almost hits me like your taking the "easy way out".....but if your standards are so high that a girl that doesnt IMMEDIATELY return your text, gets "NEXT-ED"....well then....prepare to be disappointed often.
Quite the contrary. Most guys will advise to hit her up in a week later, hoping to get another date. See: Scarcity Mentality. It is much harder to develop the mindset of premature nexting.

One Shot.
One Woman.
One Lifetime.

Same standards I have for them as well.

In addition, it's better to pursue high interest women than to turn a low interest prospect to a high one.
 
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