"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First date Problem

old_skoolr

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So Ive started chatting to girls on FB, yes before the knives come out, just letting you know that I'm only doing this to how do u say? keep the blade sharp, practice makes perfect. Now i've gotten a few numbers her and a few dates but this one girl I went out for coffee really got me thinking.

Met up with her at coffee, cute girl smart, intelligent had a good time laughing, poking fun bit of teasing and a hi 5 whenever she did something i approved of. So we left I paid for coffees, even though she tried to pay herself, but i insisted i invited her out, i should pay. I walk her to her class and thats when she said something that unnerved me.

She talked bout her ex and how close they were, how there relationship lasted 3.5 years and that he was ignoring her to focus on his studies. Now I didnt take too much notice to it, rather i made abit of small talk and changed the subject.

My immediate feeling was she brought this up for 2 reasons.

1. She wanted to let me know that she still had feelings for her ex and wanted me to know that me and her couldnt go further. OR

2. She is attracted to me, and wanted to test me with the ex to see how i would react.

My thought that if theory 2 wasnt the case y wouldnt she bring it up earlier when we were talking or on fb at all. So im guessing she likes me, I did ask her to see her again and she said shed like that. Probably wait a week since im sick and shes busy with other matters.

Just wanted to get an opinion from you guys on where u rekon she stands and any advice, would be appreciated.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova

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old_skoolr said:
She talked bout her ex and how close they were, how there relationship lasted 3.5 years and that he was ignoring her to focus on his studies. Now I didnt take too much notice to it, rather i made abit of small talk and changed the subject.
Unless you already know the girl really well, bringing up her ex is a sign that the conversation is a bit on the stale side.

What happened at the end of the date? Did you kiss?
 

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Fair point, no we didnt. It was midday and i really wasnt feeling the vibe yet from her, just kissed on the cheek as we said goodbyes.
 

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Well, she doesn't dislike you, but the date probably wasn't on the incredibly exciting side. Take her out for a second date and do a fun activity. She has to FEEL THE NEED to kiss you, and you'll be able to encourage her to feel that if your date is extremely enjoyable for her.
 
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