"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First date post mortem. Advice?

Argot

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Hey guys, first date gone wrong, don't know what happened and I'd appreciate any input you may have.

I actually fvcked this girl's sister last year but it never came up, so it seems it wasn't the problem. We had drinks at a bar, vibe was fun, there was kino, make outs and I pulled her home without problem. At home, I got as far as sucking her tits and her grabbing my di_ck. But at certain points she says "It's not happening tonight".

I say "Cool no pressure" and then we do the LMR dance a few times -- back off, try again later, back off, try again later. But she wasn't having it. Then she left, texted me to let me know she got home safe and included some callback humor in her message, we exchanged goodnights and everything seemed fine.

Next day the temperature changes completely and she's completely cold on text. Been here before enough times to know there won't be a second date. Any ideas what could have happened? Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Argot

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Forgot to add: I'm nexting her and I'm already dating other women. Just wondering if I did something wrong or if there's something to be learned from the experience. Also, in case it's relevant, I'm 40, she's 35 and has a daughter.
 

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Forgot to add: I'm nexting her and I'm already dating other women. Just wondering if I did something wrong or if there's something to be learned from the experience. Also, in case it's relevant, I'm 40, she's 35 and has a daughter.
I wouldnt worry about it. Some chicks are just like that, nothing you can do. Maybe she liked You enough to bang you that night or thought about banging you that night but not enough to continue seeing you.

Or you arent what she is looking for. Could be anything, not worth thinking about. You did enough right to get her back to your place, unless this is an everytime occurence I'd chalk this up to a one off and continue as you have been.
 
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