"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First date - how do you define chemistry? What makes you ask for a second date?

vanballmoos

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Just had my first date in a long time. Gorgeous girl, smart, witty, all that good stuff, but maybe no chemistry? She’s the first person I went out with since my ex, who knocked me off my feet on the first date

How would you define chemistry/spark after a first date?

What makes you want to ask a woman on a second date?

I don’t know, I’ve been out of the game for so long I think I forgot how to date.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ohso-Phresh

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Just had my first date in a long time. Gorgeous girl, smart, witty, all that good stuff, but maybe no chemistry? She’s the first person I went out with since my ex, who knocked me off my feet on the first date

How would you define chemistry/spark after a first date?

What makes you want to ask a woman on a second date?

I don’t know, I’ve been out of the game for so long I think I forgot how to date.
You two are in your bodies more than your heads.
You two will naturally be incidentally touching each other, there is a sparkle in the eyes, and a ‘feeling’ of ‘electricity’.


You are currently more in your head.

Keep going until you get what you want or get rejected.
 

EyeBRollin

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Attraction is not a choice. You just know. It’s magnetic and discomforting. Game and experience allow a DJ to be more comfortable with that discomfort. It never goes a way. If you don’t feel at all anxious, the attraction isn’t there.

I continue seeing every chick I want to bang. For me, there are two tiers of attraction; either just enough to bang, or I want to give her babies. I pursue both for sex. I only pursue the latter for LTR.
 

Ohso-Phresh

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For me it was always simple. I have to enjoy my time with them and that enjoyment must come EASY.

Anything else will be contrived, forced or a sign of undue compromise in some way.

This could also be said about hanging with a friend.

There’s another aspect your withholding, you coy u
 
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