First date, help a fellow make his next move

[blind_one]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2175362#post2175362 <==== feel free to contribute to my thread

So there goes, my first coffee date

Met here where intended at the established time hugged her to say hi.

We interacted for around 40 minutes ( 30 min coffee and then I walked with her for some time since we were going in the same direction ). Then I hugged her goodbye, she thanked me for the coffee and we parted.

I literally feel nothing, we chatted casually about what we did lately and what our plans are for upcoming days. I could have probably asked more questions but I definitely didn't dominate the convo as I wanted her to talk. No red flags so far. No kino other than me poking fun at her so she would stop thinking/talking about work.

Doesn't look half bad ATM, we'll see if she'll be up to go out again in the future.

This is the hard part I've been out of the game for so long I have almost no clue what to do further.

My guess is I'll contact her Sunday/Monday and try setting up for weekend.
Now, what I'd like to do is grab a wine and snag her to the beach around say 2 or 3 get some more tan going on or BETTER grab her for bowling saturday evening then go to the beach to sip on some wine and somehow steer towards her place after that if the opportunity presents itself.

Help me out fellas :wave:

Have a great day.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Here's my tupence worth:


So there goes, my first coffee date

Met here where intended at the established time hugged her to say hi.

Don't (only) hug her again, unless you're both naked. Escalate to at least a kiss on the cheek next time you meet. Hugs are for guys in the FriendZone.

We interacted for around 40 minutes (30 min coffee and then I walked with her for some time since we were going in the same direction). Then I hugged her goodbye, she thanked me for the coffee and we parted.

Try something a bit more exciting next time. Like ANYTHING other than a girly coffee date. Activities, an/or alcohol. And seriously, enough with the hugging already. This is starting to sound like a group therapy session rather than a date.

I literally feel nothing, we chatted casually about what we did lately and what our plans are for upcoming days. I could have probably asked more questions but I definitely didn't dominate the convo as I wanted her to talk. No red flags so far. No kino other than me poking fun at her so she would stop thinking/talking about work.

That conversation sounds pretty boring. Stimulate imagination, amuse, entertain, pique interest and repeat.

Doesn't look half bad ATM, we'll see if she'll be up to go out again in the future.

Doesn't look bad, doesn't look great. You didn't even tough the girl other than you're girly hugging. Find another chick to work with simultaneously and don't be so soft.

This is the hard part I've been out of the game for so long I have almost no clue what to do further.

Practice, practice, practice, improve yourself and repeat. You need more than one prospect too. In fact you need more than 10. By your current standard, it's probably not working. You'll get there though.

My guess is I'll contact her Sunday/Monday and try setting up for weekend.
Now, what I'd like to do is grab a wine and snag her to the beach around say 2 or 3 get some more tan going on or BETTER grab her for bowling saturday evening then go to the beach to sip on some wine and somehow steer towards her place after that if the opportunity presents itself.

Now this is more like it! Far better than these coffee shop gossip dates. Steer back to yours, not hers. But hers if you must. And remember, hugging is for naked people.

 

[blind_one]

Thanks man! I'll stop with the hugging girly hugging hah. Not a fan of girly dates like that since I'd ratherDO SOMETHING WITH ACTION I went for a quick coffee because we never really built rapport before. I'm considering taking her out to a waterpark as well since its cheap and fun I her to see her in a swim suit and more kino opportunities.

I'm building up my plates as we speak, as I'm banging her friend and got some numbers contact yet.

Thanks again!

 

[hudpes]

I literally feel nothing, we chatted casually about what we did lately and what our plans are for upcoming days. I could have probably asked more questions but I definitely didn't dominate the convo as I wanted her to talk.

That kind of talk is for friends, acquaintances, coworkers... you haven't pulled the veil, not even a little. Your mission is to get presented the backstage, not the facade that everyone can see. Even asking what her favorite color is better than asking what she did today. You don't need to dominate the conversation, but with a little cunning, you can steer the conversation into something more intimate.

 

[marmel75]

These girls gotta be young. You act like that when you are older and you get no second chances.

Here are easy ways to touch:

Grab her hand and look at the jewelry on it and ask "What's the story behind this". Then keep holding her hand while she explains. Then give her a look of mock disgust and accuse her of trying to hold your hand and pull it away...works every time. If she has a necklace even better...you create some tension by grabbing close to her boobs and holding the necklace...you get major bonus points if you do that in the first 5 minutes of meeting her...that takes some balls, not many dudes are gonna try that one

Tell her your hair looks so soft and start stroking it...pull it back and if she is wearing earrings touch them and tell her those are some cool earrings, etc

Tell her she looks stressed out and could use a massage..then seduce her while you have her sitting in your lap...smell her neck, whisper how good she smells and brush your lips against her ear, once her breathing starts getting heavier kiss her neck, and just keep rubbing up and down her body...

 

[blind_one]

Grab her hand and look at the jewelry on it and ask "What's the story behind this"

THANK YOU THANK YOU SO MUCH THIS IS SOO FVCKING GOLDEN and to think I used to do this b4 I went into a LTR almost 2 years ago :kick: . Just shows how much I regressed.

I need to pull my **** together.

I really appreciate what you guys are doing for me! Take care.