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First Date Ever

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So guys, this is my first real date I am going to be goign on. Ive had past dates but theyve just been booty calls with a girl I was already with.
This is a date with a girl I would consider going out with.
I'm taking her to an arcade/bowling place, cuz it seemed like it wud be fun for me too.
Since its my first date, what are some things I should watch out for, or some things I should make sure I do?
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Originally posted by werdmaster
what are some things I... should make sure I do?
Don't worry about little things; Just have fun. :D
 

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Originally posted by werdmaster

Since its my first date, what are some things I should watch out for, or some things I should make sure I do?


mmm im no expert, but i just had my very first date 2 days ago, and i think i know how you feel.

well, from my recent experience (and errors that i myself realized of after the date), i can tell you that

a) have lots, lots and lots of eye contact (like looking at her eyes until SHE turns her eyes away),

b) do kino, its hard, i got stuck in the "share a moment" kino, (ie She: blabla bla; Me: really? me too *put hand on shoulder*) i would really recomend the kino stuff in the bible (again; im sure gonna read it again)

c) you are in charge: yup, like dont get stuck like i did, if you are talking her to the arcade/bowling, YOU get the initiative and tell her, OK lets it now (do not ask, do you want to eat) just tell her you are eating now

d) End the date: yup, dont let the girl say "you know, i had really good time, but its late and i really gotta go now", YOU tell her that.

e) at the end, if things were good, ask her when could you meet again or something....yup, sounds obvious but i forgot! it was just like "ok...goodbye! take care! *kiss in chick* (thats as comun as a hand shake between girls and boy or girls and girls here in mexico)"

and luck!
 

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do you want me to let you in on a secret?

no? ok then well i wont!

hey just messing with you

the most important thing for the first date is.....

to have fun!!! thats all your there for on the first date, just to have fun, and if you end up making out well all the better but you do not have to concentrate on that just make sure you BOTJ have fun.

P.S both means you aswell as her because some people seem to think oh i will show her some fun and sacrafice mine so she likes me, but remember this is not about tricking a girl in to liking you. you are the DJ you are the prize, the alpha male so you have lots of fun and she shares it with you, its not a case of how can i act so she likes me and i sacrafice my fun.

I used to think this way and was wooried about how can i anjoy doing anything with a girl whilst trying to be a DJ, then i realise this is self improvment, its not tricking a girl in to liking you its improving yourself so that when you are just yourself the girl likes you and you have more fun.
 

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Date was pretty good, we hu for a while in the middle of the place. I was really proud of myself because she was really shy, and it took quite some effort to make her comfortable. And once she was, I let her dangle. And then pounced on her like hungry tiger in the amazon, lol (there r no tigers in the amazon).

I was actually able to make this little plan of action, tell me what you guys think.

1.Get her comfortable with Jokes, Stories, basically anything that creates positive emotions

2.Make things sexual by using enuindoes, sexual jokes, and try some kino out.

3.Find or Create the rite environment
This is really important. It shud be a good location, and a good atmosphere.
Make sure the sexual tension is really high, high enough so that you can just look her in the eye and see the raging ball of lust she is.

4.Shake well and enjoy
 

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my tip:

Don't make a plan of action
 
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