"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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First Date - Casual - She wanted to come in my house!

Dingus

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I just got back from a casual date with this great girl I recently met. She's definitely LTR material. Anyway, she picked me up at my house and we went out and had lunch. I was getting great vibes from her the entire time. I didn't pull anything fancy and just tried to play it cool. She started off by gazing at me and told me I was gorgeous. I smiled and said thanks and quickly moved the conversation on to something else. Anyway, she dropped me off back at my house and asked if she could come in and take a look at the place. I told her it was a complete mess, which was the exact truth, and that I'd give her a tour some other time after I had cleaned up the place. I told her I had her number and would give her a call sometime soon so we could go out and play pool (which she told me she was wanting to do). Was this the right move to make? I probably would have invited her in had my place been clean but I remember someone saying that it's often a good idea not to let a gal in your house on the first date.

Did I screw up?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Timster

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I think you did great! You're in control. And, obviously, she digs you, so no worries. You left her wanting more...and more she will get...in time. Clean the place up. Have her over for pizza and a movie...cuddle...;) Have fun!!!
 

DeathDealer

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you did fine buddy. seems like she's really into you if she wants to come over to your place. invite her over next time though.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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I agree with the above comments. Why are you worried? You played it cool and are keeping her waiting. You're in control.
 

Dingus

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Thanks for the input guys, it makes a world of difference in my attitude. I guess I was worried because I haven't been on a date in such a long time. Just me being a little paranoid starting out here.

She instant messaged me this evening and wants to hang out. So I guess this is date number 2 for today. I'll let you know how it goes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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