"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First Date - Casual - She wanted to come in my house!

Dingus

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I just got back from a casual date with this great girl I recently met. She's definitely LTR material. Anyway, she picked me up at my house and we went out and had lunch. I was getting great vibes from her the entire time. I didn't pull anything fancy and just tried to play it cool. She started off by gazing at me and told me I was gorgeous. I smiled and said thanks and quickly moved the conversation on to something else. Anyway, she dropped me off back at my house and asked if she could come in and take a look at the place. I told her it was a complete mess, which was the exact truth, and that I'd give her a tour some other time after I had cleaned up the place. I told her I had her number and would give her a call sometime soon so we could go out and play pool (which she told me she was wanting to do). Was this the right move to make? I probably would have invited her in had my place been clean but I remember someone saying that it's often a good idea not to let a gal in your house on the first date.

Did I screw up?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think you did great! You're in control. And, obviously, she digs you, so no worries. You left her wanting more...and more she will get...in time. Clean the place up. Have her over for pizza and a movie...cuddle...;) Have fun!!!
 

DeathDealer

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you did fine buddy. seems like she's really into you if she wants to come over to your place. invite her over next time though.
 

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I agree with the above comments. Why are you worried? You played it cool and are keeping her waiting. You're in control.
 

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Thanks for the input guys, it makes a world of difference in my attitude. I guess I was worried because I haven't been on a date in such a long time. Just me being a little paranoid starting out here.

She instant messaged me this evening and wants to hang out. So I guess this is date number 2 for today. I'll let you know how it goes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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