"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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geentalent

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I went on a date with a girl today, let's call her julie.
I've known Julie for a few months, we met on vacation in spain. This was an organised group vacation with a group of 20 students from the same fraternity.

In spain we chatted a bit and i felt like she was interested in me, however besides Julie there was another girl i wanted to persue in spain so I put if off for a while.
Now the other girl didn'nt work out and today i had my first date with Julie. We met for drinks in the centre of the town and afterwards we walked to her house. We get to her room and we close the door and there is just her bed and a desk.

The interesting thing is that i wanted to kiss her, but she sat on the desk chair and i sat on the bed, so it seemed like she was trying to tell me that she didnt want to yet. I guess that if she did she would have sat on the bed next to me. Is this a correct assumption or overthinking it?

Afterwards we said it was fun and split ways, she seemed a bit offended and disappointed.Also she said about 3 times she really enjoyed herself and i would follow it with so did I. I somehow got the feeling she thought i was not really enjoying myself. Also worth noting that most of our conversation was sadly about school. The truth is that i wasn''t enjoying myself, but i really want to sleep with this girl.

Whats the best way to go from here? Ask her out a few days later and set up a date at my home? I have my own condo, so i could invite her over for a movie and see where that gets me. Or is this too soon?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tyson420

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Next time tell her to come over where you're sitting.

You went to her place? Why didn't you bring a movie?
 

mustfirstregister

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Oh man u just missed your chance to get laid.....It has happened to me before, same situation. I feel your pain.
 

betterthandead

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He didn't blow his chance from in-action. He already blew it by hanging around the girl's place on the first date.

See it from a girl's POV. I would totally move on, sounds like it'll be a struggle to try to go on another date.

Are you that clueless? She seems apprehensive about getting close to you in her place, you actually think she wants to go to someone's house she doesn't even know you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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