"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First date advice

geentalent

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I went on a date with a girl today, let's call her julie.
I've known Julie for a few months, we met on vacation in spain. This was an organised group vacation with a group of 20 students from the same fraternity.

In spain we chatted a bit and i felt like she was interested in me, however besides Julie there was another girl i wanted to persue in spain so I put if off for a while.
Now the other girl didn'nt work out and today i had my first date with Julie. We met for drinks in the centre of the town and afterwards we walked to her house. We get to her room and we close the door and there is just her bed and a desk.

The interesting thing is that i wanted to kiss her, but she sat on the desk chair and i sat on the bed, so it seemed like she was trying to tell me that she didnt want to yet. I guess that if she did she would have sat on the bed next to me. Is this a correct assumption or overthinking it?

Afterwards we said it was fun and split ways, she seemed a bit offended and disappointed.Also she said about 3 times she really enjoyed herself and i would follow it with so did I. I somehow got the feeling she thought i was not really enjoying myself. Also worth noting that most of our conversation was sadly about school. The truth is that i wasn''t enjoying myself, but i really want to sleep with this girl.

Whats the best way to go from here? Ask her out a few days later and set up a date at my home? I have my own condo, so i could invite her over for a movie and see where that gets me. Or is this too soon?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tyson420

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Next time tell her to come over where you're sitting.

You went to her place? Why didn't you bring a movie?
 

mustfirstregister

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Oh man u just missed your chance to get laid.....It has happened to me before, same situation. I feel your pain.
 

betterthandead

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He didn't blow his chance from in-action. He already blew it by hanging around the girl's place on the first date.

See it from a girl's POV. I would totally move on, sounds like it'll be a struggle to try to go on another date.

Are you that clueless? She seems apprehensive about getting close to you in her place, you actually think she wants to go to someone's house she doesn't even know you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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