"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Finding your passion makes all the difference

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I just watched an episode of "Rapture", a mini series about hip hop. This episode was about Logic (The rapper who sang the "1-800" song). You'd never guess he's a rapper if you saw him. He looks like an AFC dweeb. But he worked his way to becoming an internationally known star with millions of fans, not to mention a Grammy nomination. He's had many demons (anxiety attacks, parents who abused him, grew up in the projects) but now he has a hot wife and is going on tour.

The guys on here who say you should follow your passion and girls will follow are absolutely correct. Girls shouldn't be the end goal. Find your passion and devote your life to it. We all get lazy at times. Life gets tough. But don't fall into the trap of thinking your life sucks because of women. Logic had it much worse than us and look what he made of himself.

I'm not a big fan of Corey Wayne, but this is what he preaches and I believe him. Once you find your passion, life becomes really fun and you'll not only meet hot girls but you'll also meet great friends and make money in the process.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It really is simple and hard at the same time, a lot of men don't chase, but subconsciously chase
 

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It really is simple and hard at the same time, a lot of men don't chase, but subconsciously chase
Yep, it's not the physical act of chasing, but a mental focus.

When men focus on women, they lose power. Ultimately destroying any attraction in the processs.
 

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I've got a serious hobby I've been passionate about since a young age. I compete on a semi-pro/regional level and half of the year I'm gone competing at events. Girls love to ask questions about it and become highly interested in it. Once they attend one of my events they are hooked. They see the passion and dedication it takes. I've had more than one tell me that watching me compete makes them horny/wet in the panties!~ The majority of my life I have put my passion for my hobby before any woman.

I see so many guys out there that have little direction. They aren't passionate about anything in life. They lack drive. They lack ambition. They haven't accomplished anything. All of those things are attractive to women. And with it comes money, success, and notoriety.

These things were all buried in the platform that Urbanyst pushed yet so many hated hearing.
 

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I just watched an episode of "Rapture", a mini series about hip hop. This episode was about Logic (The rapper who sang the "1-800" song). You'd never guess he's a rapper if you saw him. He looks like an AFC dweeb. But he worked his way to becoming an internationally known star with millions of fans, not to mention a Grammy nomination. He's had many demons (anxiety attacks, parents who abused him, grew up in the projects) but now he has a hot wife and is going on tour.

The guys on here who say you should follow your passion and girls will follow are absolutely correct. Girls shouldn't be the end goal. Find your passion and devote your life to it. We all get lazy at times. Life gets tough. But don't fall into the trap of thinking your life sucks because of women. Logic had it much worse than us and look what he made of himself.

I'm not a big fan of Corey Wayne, but this is what he preaches and I believe him. Once you find your passion, life becomes really fun and you'll not only meet hot girls but you'll also meet great friends and make money in the process.
another incredibly stupid f*cking thread

OP what's your answer then for what's going on in my life?

- I have a job I enjoy immensely and make huge money at
- Fantastic with managing finances, I'll retire at 50 if I want to
- Great friends/great family
- Vacations 6-8 times a year in all sorts of amazing locations
- Go to the best concerts/sports events/restaurants/bars/clubs/etc...
- Have hobbies that I enjoy immensely
- In great shape, attractive and very healthy

yet I still have zero attractive women my age who are ever interested in me.

I live life with tremendous passion in everything I do and love all aspects of my life outside of dating
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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another incredibly stupid f*cking thread

OP what's your answer then for what's going on in my life?

- I have a job I enjoy immensely and make huge money at
- Fantastic with managing finances, I'll retire at 50 if I want to
- Great friends/great family
- Vacations 6-8 times a year in all sorts of amazing locations
- Go to the best concerts/sports events/restaurants/bars/clubs/etc...
- Have hobbies that I enjoy immensely
- In great shape, attractive and very healthy

yet I still have zero attractive women my age who are ever interested in me.

I live life with tremendous passion in everything I do and love all aspects of my life outside of dating
It's your attitude
 

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I just watched an episode of "Rapture", a mini series about hip hop. This episode was about Logic (The rapper who sang the "1-800" song). You'd never guess he's a rapper if you saw him. He looks like an AFC dweeb. But he worked his way to becoming an internationally known star with millions of fans, not to mention a Grammy nomination. He's had many demons (anxiety attacks, parents who abused him, grew up in the projects) but now he has a hot wife and is going on tour.

The guys on here who say you should follow your passion and girls will follow are absolutely correct. Girls shouldn't be the end goal. Find your passion and devote your life to it. We all get lazy at times. Life gets tough. But don't fall into the trap of thinking your life sucks because of women. Logic had it much worse than us and look what he made of himself.

I'm not a big fan of Corey Wayne, but this is what he preaches and I believe him. Once you find your passion, life becomes really fun and you'll not only meet hot girls but you'll also meet great friends and make money in the process.
Lol @ Corey Wayne. You know where this queer stole that from? Pook. He was the OG who first stated that if you follow your passion, women will in return. And Logic is still a piece of **** too. He ripped off 1-800 from Joyner Lucas and Tech N9ne and got famous for it. Those 2 dudes are the real ones who came up with it. The nerdy kid just stole it, he didn't follow his dream. I think he got famous for it because since he is white, a lot more white people listen to that stuff, and suicide is mostly done by whites tbh. But he is still an asshole for doing that though.
 
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