Finding the right balance between GF/ME time

[bobafatt]

Ive noticed in the last couple of weeks im spending too much time with my girlfriend. I currently live in a house share and she has stayed round the every night, last night was the first night in a long time where i finished work and just had time by myself (it felt good

Even though i love her to bits i cant help but think having time to myself and being able to go out with friends on a weekend is healthy - id just like to add i support and agree with her doing the same thing.

Ive also noticed that she is quite needy, she is constantly ringing me to make small chat, texting and always available. It sucks because if she was doing the complete opposite id be in her posting a thread about that...

How have you guys dealt with this in the past? is there a way i can speak to her about this without taking offence to it? it almost got to a point where us two spending more time together then without is the normal.

 

[beforeimgone]

Ive noticed in the last couple of weeks im spending too much time with my girlfriend. I currently live in a house share and she has stayed round the every night, last night was the first night in a long time where i finished work and just had time by myself (it felt good

Even though i love her to bits i cant help but think having time to myself and being able to go out with friends on a weekend is healthy - id just like to add i support and agree with her doing the same thing.

Ive also noticed that she is quite needy, she is constantly ringing me to make small chat, texting and always available. It sucks because if she was doing the complete opposite id be in her posting a thread about that...

How have you guys dealt with this in the past? is there a way i can speak to her about this without taking offence to it? it almost got to a point where us two spending more time together then without is the normal.

Blame her for something trivial. Use it as an excuse to ignore her for a day or two

 

[marmel75]

Blame her for something trivial. Use it as an excuse to ignore her for a day or two

What good will that do on an ongoing basis? He is supposed to blame her for something every week? I'm sure she would get tired of that after a month or so...

Just talk to her and tell her straight up what is on your mind, she might not like it but she will respect you immensely for it.

Just let her know its in no way any reflection on her, that you love spending time with her but that you also need some alone time as well. Unless she is some super weird chick she should understand...

In these situations too many guys hem and haw and do things when they simply should just talk to her.

This is an opportunity to really gain a lot of respect in her eyes, take advantage of it and handle it like a man.

 

[TheProspect]

Ive noticed in the last couple of weeks im spending too much time with my girlfriend. I currently live in a house share and she has stayed round the every night, last night was the first night in a long time where i finished work and just had time by myself (it felt good

Even though i love her to bits i cant help but think having time to myself and being able to go out with friends on a weekend is healthy - id just like to add i support and agree with her doing the same thing.

Ive also noticed that she is quite needy, she is constantly ringing me to make small chat, texting and always available. It sucks because if she was doing the complete opposite id be in her posting a thread about that...

How have you guys dealt with this in the past? is there a way i can speak to her about this without taking offence to it? it almost got to a point where us two spending more time together then without is the normal.

The good thing about your girlfriend interacting with you 24/7 is that you know you are likely the prominent male on her mind, if not the only one. When you start to hear from her less frequently (at least, a negative deviation from her baseline behaviour) is when you need to be suspicious.

Start off the conversation by acknowledging that you feel loved and wanted by her constant outreach and that you appreciate how much she loves you (she will be more open to your suggestion to give you more "me" time).Do not hint that her behaviour is "needy" or "clingy" because she is a woman, she'll take it personally and get offended no matter how you word it lol. I would give different advice if she was just a plate, I would just say pull back on your response time of her calls/messages and limit your engagement overall. But it's your girlfriend, and woman need attention. Learn how to allocate your time in a manner that you afford yourself some "me" time while also giving her enough attention periodically that she doesn't seek it elsewhere.

Blame her for something trivial. Use it as an excuse to ignore her for a day or two

Judging by the majority of your posts in the last week, you should spend more time absorbing advice on this forum than giving it.

 

[beforeimgone]

What good will that do on an ongoing basis? He is supposed to blame her for something every week? I'm sure she would get tired of that after a month or so...

Just talk to her and tell her straight up what is on your mind, she might not like it but she will respect you immensely for it.

Just let her know its in no way any reflection on her, that you love spending time with her but that you also need some alone time as well. Unless she is some super weird chick she should understand...

In these situations too many guys hem and haw and do things when they simply should just talk to her.

This is an opportunity to really gain a lot of respect in her eyes, take advantage of it and handle it like a man.

Handling it "like a man" is something only a man cares about.

Your response is based off of your belief that women respect honesty and integrity and other 'manly' things. They don't.

Honesty is awesome, but there are a billion ways to skin this cat.

The good thing about your girlfriend interacting with you 24/7 is that you know you are likely the prominent male on her mind, if not the only one. When you start to hear from her less frequently (at least, a negative deviation from her baseline behaviour) is when you need to be suspicious.

Start off the conversation by acknowledging that you feel loved and wanted by her constant outreach and that you appreciate how much she loves you (she will be more open to your suggestion to give you more "me" time).Do not hint that her behaviour is "needy" or "clingy" because she is a woman, she'll take it personally and get offended no matter how you word it lol. I would give different advice if she was just a plate, I would just say pull back on your response time of her calls/messages and limit your engagement overall. But it's your girlfriend, and woman need attention. Learn how to allocate your time in a manner that you afford yourself some "me" time while also giving her enough attention periodically that she doesn't seek it elsewhere.



Judging by the majority of your posts in the last week, you should spend more time absorbing advice on this forum than giving it.

Mind your business.

 

[ubercat]

I was helping my g/f with a computer thing on the couch last night and she starts giving me a bj. Enjoyed for 5 minutes and gently pushed her away and got on with my weights. U seldom lose by showing u have goals.