"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Finding the real you...

Caldus

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Sometimes I feel like I know who I am and then sometimes I don't. I'm beginning to think that maybe I still haven't found the real me. I know this sounds kind of vague, but I think you all know what I am talking about.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's extremely metaphorical, I wouldn't worry about it.

Give it time and you may find that there is no "you".

"You" are simply the culmination of experiences molded into human form. Sadly, the "you" that you are pondering about, is only your conscious mind.

NEVER EVER forget that "you" are human, and are subject to irrational feelings, desires, and actions. Don't worry about it man, just try focusing on making things better, always.
 

Brian20o2

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lol

This is so philisophical. Ya know what I learned after studying philiosophy for 6 months? That you will drive yourself crazy trying to find the answer to life.:D
 

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Meh... I find it hard to even think about it anymore.

It almost hurts!....




... Like swallowing a couple ice cubes...
 

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity_%28social_science%29

The psychological idea of identity in humans is related to self image, namely a person's view or mental model of him or herself, usually known as their personal identity (see identity crisis and the work of Erik Erikson.)

Sociology recognizes the concept of identity negotiation where a person has multiple identities that relate to different aspects of their life and personality and "negotiates" with society as to the meaning of that identity in their life.

and there's more...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self_%28philosophy%29

In philosophy, the self is the idea of a unified being which is the source of an idiosyncratic consciousness. Moreover, this self is the agent responsible for the thoughts and actions of an individual to which they are ascribed. It is a substance, which therefore endures through time; thus, the thoughts and actions at different moments of time may pertain to the same self (See John Locke's theory of consciousness as the basis of personal identity). As the notion of subject, the "self" has been harshly criticized by Nietzsche at the end of the 19th century, on behalf of what Gilles Deleuze would call a "becoming-other".

Many quotations assert that to truly know thyself is the most difficult thing to achieve. Thales of Miletus, when asked what was difficult, answered in a well-known apophthegm: "To Know Thyself" (γνῶθι σεαυτόν), also attributed to Socrates, and inscribed on the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. Lao Zi in his Tao Te Ching says "Knowing others is wisdom | Knowing the self is enlightenment. | Mastering others requires force | Mastering the self requires strength."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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just face it..... you are GAY!!!!


just kidding.

it is one in the morning, too late to think philisophically for me.
 
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