You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by Andromax
Hey the old expression goes something like, "its all pink on the inside..."
Seriously though. If you find them attractive, then go for it. I would advise against dating women that you arent attracted to. 1) You dont really learn anything that will help you with the hotties, and 2) it aint nice to the fugly chick to mess with their feelings.
If you cant score with the hotties then lower your standards, or visit russia. (hehehehe)
Or you are gonna be lonely, yes
It's called "settling", and is the mark of a loser.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
'Nuff said....
Dude - lots of gorgeous women. They tend to go for American guys pretty quick, cause they want to come to the states.
I agree that you shouldn't settle for less, but I think you're more likely to have more uphill battles with gorgeous girls than with those that are self-conscious of their mediocre appearances. The hot ones know that the AFC's drool all over them, so they have to weed out the wussies from the men by making it harder for guys to win them over. The average girls (or below average) have to compensate by being extra nice and hoping they could win a guy over with their personality.
I gotta disagree with that, but I see where you are going.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.