I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Originally posted by Andromax
Hey the old expression goes something like, "its all pink on the inside..."
Seriously though. If you find them attractive, then go for it. I would advise against dating women that you arent attracted to. 1) You dont really learn anything that will help you with the hotties, and 2) it aint nice to the fugly chick to mess with their feelings.
If you cant score with the hotties then lower your standards, or visit russia. (hehehehe)
Or you are gonna be lonely, yes
It's called "settling", and is the mark of a loser.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
'Nuff said....
Dude - lots of gorgeous women. They tend to go for American guys pretty quick, cause they want to come to the states.
I agree that you shouldn't settle for less, but I think you're more likely to have more uphill battles with gorgeous girls than with those that are self-conscious of their mediocre appearances. The hot ones know that the AFC's drool all over them, so they have to weed out the wussies from the men by making it harder for guys to win them over. The average girls (or below average) have to compensate by being extra nice and hoping they could win a guy over with their personality.
I gotta disagree with that, but I see where you are going.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.