"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Finally off Bupropion

Blacksheep

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So after 3 years on that medication I finally took the decision to stop it (with medical supervision) and its been 4 months Im completely off.

In the beginning it was weird, emotions were more intense. And I had this constant fear that I would change after quitting it.

But it seems its normal. I still can deal better with emotions and some situations same way when I was with this med.

I had some relapse on alcohol while quitting this medication, but Im already reaching 3 months without alcohol and Im happy with that.

And stuffs I learned about depression and anxiety:

- Proper sleep literally cut away depression and anxiety for me.
- same for foods. Cutting gluten, sugar and processed foods is life changing.
- exercising and getting sunlight also improved so much my mood.
- psychoanalysis helped a lot.

And all of this happened when I took the decision of going no contact with abusive parents. It was one big step that changed so much in my life.

Have a decent job (not rich) something about 70k a year without taxes, but I can live with some comfort. Bought my apartment in that period and still have a lot of goals.

Started to cultivate consistency with mini habits like doing push upa everyday (Im on a 150 days streak) and doing squats also.

Its also a very lonely road with all that happened with my parents, but its worthing the walk.

Just wanted to share it. Remember when I came here needing for help and have some guys here that really helped me with this situation.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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I remember that you were down very bad, it's awesome to see you up.

You take care of all the small things and the big things take care of themselves
 
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