Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Finally got her number

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So I've been softly hitting on this cute blonde girl for maybe 2 years and finally last week she gave me her number. She works with one of the agencies I deal with (not the married one although she also gave me her number also around the same time).

Question is, now that I have her number what do I do with it? I texted her something work related to which she thanked me and I replied 'no late night booty calls please' to which she ha ha'd and said there'd be none of them.

I'm thinking of just not calling or anything and letting her do all the leg work now I know she's interested. Same with the Tinder matches I'm getting. I'm kind of just ignoring them. What do you think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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2 years to get her a number and all of a sudden her interest is sky high??

Just hit her up for drinks and take it from there.
 

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ARE YOU SERIOUS.....WTF???

Let me see if I read that right....



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So I've been softly hitting on this cute blonde girl for maybe 2 years

2 YEARS?? Guess I did read it right,lol. Dude...I don't know where you got your "game" from or what style you use,but I'm sure there's a QUICKER method out there somewhere that will yield faster results.

Just please say that you pursued and went out with other women in that time period,that's all I ask.


I've heard of "better late than never",but DAMMMN. :crackup:



Question is, now that I have her number what do I do with it?
What? You've waited 2 YEARS for this moment,and now that it's here right in front of your face,you don't know what to do?

It's obvious to everyone here for you to call her and ask her out,but since you're here asking what to do with the number,I have a question.....


Why did you ask her for her number in the first place? What did you want it for???



I texted her something work related to which she thanked me...
So you texted her something related to work. This makes me question the context under which you got the number. I hope you didn't get it under the guise of work and are now trying to transition over to possibly dating.

That's like pretending to be a girl's friend so you can get close to her,then trying to pull the old "switcheroo" to suddenly dating.


You might wanna be careful with that. If she gave you her number thinking it was cause of work,but when in reality,you had "other plans"....that can backfire on you BIGTIME.



I'm thinking of just not calling or anything and letting her do all the leg work now I know she's interested. Same with the Tinder matches I'm getting. I'm kind of just ignoring them. What do you think?

You can't do that. You can't just sit back with your feet propped up and expect her to do everything. It took you 2 years just to get the number....and I'm not even sure you got it cause of romantic interest on HER part to be honest. Even if you did,you're in no position to "coast" and do nothing.....you still gotta flirt,gotta generate some chemistry....gotta ask her out.



Your sit around and do nothing approach is gonna cause ANOTHER 2 years to just pass on by.
 

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Igetit! said:
ARE YOU SERIOUS.....WTF???

Let me see if I read that right....2 YEARS?? Guess I did read it right,lol. Dude...I don't know where you got your "game" from or what style you use,but I'm sure there's a QUICKER method out there somewhere that will yield faster results. Just please say that you pursued and went out with other women in that time period,that's all I ask.

Lol. Yes of course.

What? You've waited 2 YEARS for this moment,and now that it's here right in front of your face,you don't know what to do? It's obvious to everyone here for you to call her and ask her out,but since you're here asking what to do with the number,I have a question.....Why did you ask her for her number in the first place? What did you want it for???

To go out with her and have sex with her.


So you texted her something related to work. This makes me question the context under which you got the number. I hope you didn't get it under the guise of work and are now trying to transition over to possibly dating.
That's like pretending to be a girl's friend so you can get close to her,then trying to pull the old "switcheroo" to suddenly dating.You might wanna be careful with that. If she gave you her number thinking it was cause of work,but when in reality,you had "other plans"....that can backfire on you BIGTIME.

She gave it to me during work but she gave it to me so we could organise a time to go out together.

You can't do that. You can't just sit back with your feet propped up and expect her to do everything. It took you 2 years just to get the number....and I'm not even sure you got it cause of romantic interest on HER part to be honest. Even if you did,you're in no position to "coast" and do nothing.....you still gotta flirt,gotta generate some chemistry....gotta ask her out.Your sit around and do nothing approach is gonna cause ANOTHER 2 years to just pass on by.
Ok. Fair enough. I'll suggest a day sometime this week. :)
 

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omg! so i texted her and she replied: sorry who is this?

which means either 2 things:
1) she didn't store my number and her interest is low (which is odd considering she was under no pressure to give it out), or
2) it's a sh!t test and she's testing to see how i respond.

best response?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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omg! so i texted her and she replied: sorry who is this?

which means either 2 things:
1) she didn't store my number and her interest is low (which is odd considering she was under no pressure to give it out), or
2) it's a sh!t test and she's testing to see how i respond.

best response?
I'd make a joke about her not knowing who it is. But that's strike 1. I'd keep pushing for a meetup until I get a real rejection.

But let's be honest, she doesn't have any interest at all. You took WAY too long to get her number. After your 2nd or 3rd interaction she categorized you as "friend" rather than "lover".

Just move on and ignore her. Go find new plates and work on girls that actually want to be with you.
 

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Sofomore said:
I'd make a joke about her not knowing who it is. But that's strike 1. I'd keep pushing for a meetup until I get a real rejection.

But let's be honest, she doesn't have any interest at all. You took WAY too long to get her number. After your 2nd or 3rd interaction she categorized you as "friend" rather than "lover".

Just move on and ignore her. Go find new plates and work on girls that actually want to be with you.
oh. ok then. i'll just forget about her. :)
 

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oh. ok then. i'll just forget about her. :)
Wow,lol. :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:


It took you 2 YEARS this girl's number,and at the first sign of trouble,you go,"OK then...I'll just forget about her. :)"


Wow.....


I can't tell if you're serious or not. :crackup:
 

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Igetit! said:
Wow,lol. :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:


It took you 2 YEARS this girl's number,and at the first sign of trouble,you go,"OK then...I'll just forget about her. :)"


Wow.....


I can't tell if you're serious or not. :crackup:
lol. like i said - it wasn't like i was hard hitting on her. just banter really. lately i've been busting on her about us meeting and she seemed up for it. i havent been actively pursuing her as such. if i catch her on the phone i'll bust on her a bit. it's been kind of a running joke where i'll tell her to give me her number and she never gives it. this time she gave it. i didn't expect her to. its really no biggie either way. :)
 

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in the end i just said:

lol, good one! i finish at 8 remember so pick an evening where you don't mind hanging around or where you finish at a similar time.

she'll know it's me from that. if she responds great, if she doesn't, great! :)

edit: i hope she's not reading this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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