"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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perseverance

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It's taken five months, but I think I might be getting it.

I went an "underground" gig last night. I was standing with two mates behind these good looking girls. My mates were more interested in them than I was. I was too busy absorbing the atmosphere of the place and just wanted to go inside because it was cold outside.

My mates are chatting amongst themselves, you know the usual "I so would do her, in every hole" blah, blah, but neither of them showed any balls to make an approach. So, I thought f*ck it, I'm going to apply the SoSuave methods here. So I tapped one of the girls on her shoulder and she turns around and I introduce myself and ask her about the bands, what are they like etc.

She seems friendly enough and starts telling me about the ones she knows and I just fling a few questions about the venue and if she has ever been before. How much beer costs, just small talk like that, nothing major. She seems all smiley and generally seems nice. I am just being me, not feeling any pressure to land digits or score. Not really bothered if I do or don't neither. Oh, while I am chatting to this chick, her mates and my mates are talking to each other.

We all enter the venue, me and my mates head straight to bar, the girls wanna try and get to the front to see the band up close and I'm not interested in that, I just wanna listen to some good independent music and neck some beers with my buddies. So they say say "see you later" and go off.

Well the music starts about half an hour later or forty odd minutes later, me and my mates just squeeze into gaps in the audience, we start jumping about having a good time. About an hour or so later, I notice the girl I was speaking to, so I tap my mate and tell him the girls are over there and we squeeze through the gaps to get to her and her mates. I tap her on the shoulder and she turns around has a huge smile on her and hugs me, I've got my arms around her waist, smiling like I'm the dogs bollocks. I'm feeling really confident here, so I shout into her ear if she is enjoying herself? She can't hear me, so I grab her hand and lead her away from the area she is at, she doesn't put up any resistance and we leave the crowded area and stand on the fringes away from the floor where you can actually hear yourself think.

She has her arms rested around my neck and shoulders and my arms are around her waist, we're just talking casually she then drops in "so are you going to buy me drink?", I replied with "I'll buy you a drink when we're out together" and I wink at her, she laughs at that and I move my head forwards as does she and we lock lips and have get off. We get off again and then I pull my phone out and ask her for her digits, she grabs the phone off of me, punches in her number and grabs my hand and leads me back into the audience. I spent the rest of the gig rubbing up against her, arms around her waist, kissing her neck and shares jokes and laughs with her. When the gigs ends and it is time to part way, me and her just stand near the middle of the room kissing and she is like "call me" etc. I am like "I'll see, I'll see". We part ways and on the way home with my mates, they're calling me legendary etc. Asking me for advice on etc.

The truth is, I had no idea how it happened, I just applied what I learnt here in a real life situation and it worked, usually I get rejected, but this is the first time I felt sexy, handsome, confident and in charge of the situation. It was an amazing power trip and I just wanna get back out there and apply what I have learnt here. Sure, I suppose a few beers played apart in my confidence, but I am much more confident, and happy with myself since reading the DJ bible and listening to people on this forum.

2011 has already proven to be a good year so far and I am looking forward to getting out there and putting theory into practise. As for the girl I will give her a ring and arrange a meeting, but I am not bothered about the outcome, if I get sex then fair play, if I don't I don't care. I just wanna get out there and get more experience.

So thank you SoSuave, I am feeling less AFC everyday because of this site. I have recommended this site to my mates who also want to change. God bless you all.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PectoralisMajor

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good work. leave it a 2-3 days then call her and leave a VM if she doesnt answer.

the game is on. meanwhile, dont stop meeting other women!
 
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perseverance

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I phoned her up on Thurs evening and we're hanging out later on today and then going back to hers later on the evening.

As for plates? I haven't got anymore yet, but I am working on it. I'm going to be a lot more out going this year, London is a massive place and I'm ready to explore it, properly.
 

Htienvu

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perseverance said:
I phoned her up on Thurs evening and we're hanging out later on today and then going back to hers later on the evening.

As for plates? I haven't got anymore yet, but I am working on it. I'm going to be a lot more out going this year, London is a massive place and I'm ready to explore it, properly.
Good job, am in london too, gonna hit west end tomorrow night :)
 

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It's moments like this that you finally get it and everything makes sense. Then a week later she doesn't reply to your calls, and you go into confusion and depression. And that is called life HAHA.

And having the balls to approach a girl and tapping her on her shoulder is called being a man, nothing to do with sosuave. Dont give this **** any credit it doesn't deserve. Any decent role model would be able to give you that advice if you asked him, 'how do i get girls?', 'you talk to them and start conversations'.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sounds pathetic but i really enjoy reading the success stories on this forum, keep it up!
 
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