"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Filling the Void
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- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
No seriously...reading sucks up a lot of time, and it may even be more productive. And heck, you can even use it as a pickup tool.
GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS
And, by OUT, i mean anywhere outside. Go arrange a football game or something. Maybe just walk around the city and chill. Go for coffee.
DO ANYTHING
Life is out there, just do it.
-Damian
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
take "mini-vacations" where you drive to neighboring cities
just to hang out.
Congratulations! You now have more free time than you know what to do with.
First things first. Sit back, take a deep breath, and relax.
TV is not good for you. You can't even figure out what to do when you're not watching it!
I found that it took many hobbies to replace TV. It's up to you to find some hobbies. In any case, I replaced my TV by finding hobbies so that I don't have any free time afterall. I keep myself busy as a way of deciding what I do with my own free time. Before, with TV, my schedule may have looked like this:
8-5 school/work/errands
5-6 after-work duties/TV if none
6-7 Dinner (while watching TV)
7-12 TV/internet (at the same time!)
That was the base schedule, unless something interrupted it - and friends often did. I just defaulted towards watching TV or getting on the internet unless I had something better to do.
To replace the downtime, I adopted a few time consuming hobbies and set goals for progress in those hobbies, then I set time aside for them. I know spend about an hour a day playing my guitar - sometimes more, sometimes not at all. I also work on programming at least three times a week, workout at the gym almost every other day, make sure to eat healthy, and at the same time mantain a healthy social life by inviting people out to dinner, lunch, drinks, etc. almost every night of the week. Combine this with work and school, and now I couldn't watch TV if I wanted to. I'd have to give something else up.
Just find something that you enjoy, and make sure you keep your attention by setting a goal related to it. In other words, don't just play the guitar. Make a goal to master the guitar. But also be realistic, and know that you wont master it right away, so set smaller goals as well - for example, to learn a song. And learn some scales, and some chords. Then make a goal to learn your favorite song. Or ten songs. Or to write a song. Just keep raising your expectations and then meeting them. The cycle becomes quite addictive.
Take up a few hobbies to spend your time on, and maintain a healthy social life. You will be a much happier and interesting person for it.
BrotherAP
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
gardening
fishing
driving around listening to music
exercise
build something
go for a walk
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
bbestar
Banned
Listen to Classic Christian Bible on your nearest bbnradio.org station
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-go to the gym
-go clean up the garage (or work on something in the garage.)
-go to the mall and walk around the shops
-go to the hardware store and look around.
-see what your freinds are doing.
i got my tv time down to two hours a day. last week i didn't watch it for 4 days strait.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.