For the last year of my life I have pretty much taken myself out of the game. This past week I started going out more and on Monday I met a very cool girl then again on Saturday I met another. What is weird about the one on Saturday is this, I have met her at least 10 times before. But she saw me in our crowd of mutual friends and walks up "I don't think we've ever met." I say "sure we have". Well we start talking and I knew she had a boyfriend so I ask about him. All she says is that "he moved". We then make plans to hang out on my b-day, which she insisted that I call her on that day. Strange thing is that I resemble her man from what I remember. Will I just be filling in for him?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Filling In?
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Meet up with her and find out...and have a bit of fun while youre at it 
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Exactly....Originally posted by dearsappho
Meet up with her and find out...and have a bit of fun while youre at it
Do you already think that you want a long term and meaningful relationship with her after a tenth meeting and one b-day get together? With a response to the boyfriend inquire such as "he moved", it doesn't sound like that's what she's expecting out of you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.