Are there any tips for fighting or winning fights that I somehow overlooked? I've been in a few fights before, won them both, but unfortunately I may have a bigger confrontation coming up soon that I need preparation for.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Again, amateur hour.DoN_KaTRiN said:If U Can Avoid Fighting Do It Sometimes Fighting Aint The Only Option But If It Is Then Stand Your Ground, Cover Your Face,move Alot,block Let Them Get Tired First Once U Seen Them Get Tired Let The Inner Beast Out You Win Some You Loose It Is What It Is!!
Little late to start training now eh? How about imagining you're civilized and work from there?Brighty said:I may have a bigger confrontation coming up soon that I need preparation for.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
blinkwatt said:Fighting(unless it's a career) is for people who aren't smart enough to resolve issues with their head.
Something everyone overlooks;Brighty said:What about if the kid is bigger than you? I'm 6'4 and 190 lbs, but this guy is about my height but a bit bigger (prolly around 210 lbs) and probably stronger. How do I avoid him getting grapples on me and taking me down to the floor where it'll no doubt be a wrestling match then.
And this isn't a street fight, its a school fight, and I'm not going to bite off any bits of his face, I'm in no real danger of losing my life, but there's not going to be a way to avoid this fight, this kid is absolutely looking for trouble.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.