Are there any tips for fighting or winning fights that I somehow overlooked? I've been in a few fights before, won them both, but unfortunately I may have a bigger confrontation coming up soon that I need preparation for.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Again, amateur hour.DoN_KaTRiN said:If U Can Avoid Fighting Do It Sometimes Fighting Aint The Only Option But If It Is Then Stand Your Ground, Cover Your Face,move Alot,block Let Them Get Tired First Once U Seen Them Get Tired Let The Inner Beast Out You Win Some You Loose It Is What It Is!!
Little late to start training now eh? How about imagining you're civilized and work from there?Brighty said:I may have a bigger confrontation coming up soon that I need preparation for.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
blinkwatt said:Fighting(unless it's a career) is for people who aren't smart enough to resolve issues with their head.
Something everyone overlooks;Brighty said:What about if the kid is bigger than you? I'm 6'4 and 190 lbs, but this guy is about my height but a bit bigger (prolly around 210 lbs) and probably stronger. How do I avoid him getting grapples on me and taking me down to the floor where it'll no doubt be a wrestling match then.
And this isn't a street fight, its a school fight, and I'm not going to bite off any bits of his face, I'm in no real danger of losing my life, but there's not going to be a way to avoid this fight, this kid is absolutely looking for trouble.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.