"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fight with girlfriend - Call first or wait for her to call me

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Long story short, we were having a great day today and we were at the time. Theres this gay kid we know and i said in a joking way, wow im surprised he doesn't want me, every gay guy wants me.

She goes very serious with her body language bent towards me....because he doesnt want tool bags....i got a bit angry, normally i laugh about it and go ur the one dating the tool bag..but it was her body language that got to me and how serious she was. She was almost crying that i said ill talk to u tomorow and walked away and drove away slow. Also now her FB status says sleeping forever with a cry face....

Should i call her and talk it out or wait for her to call me.


Also weve been seeing eachother almost everyday for 6 weeks(i know 2 much) but starting officially dating yesterday.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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movistar

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I wouldn't call...
Unless I was a complete ass, I let them do the apologizing, sometime even if I was an ass I let them make up...

It just sounds like you were joking around and she got offended... Oops...
 
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Just wait it out. But if she contacts you today, tell her why your upset and how you didn't appreciate that outburst. Say you understand she was defending him, but she needs to realize you we're joking and find her behavior completely uncalled for. You feel a little disrespected.

I just let them know. Problems in a LTR won't be solved with the silent treatment. You need to let her know why you did what you did. Be direct and don't back down from your position. Stand by your decision to be upset. But be open to trying to reach a solution.

Good luck. Let me hear an update.
 
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talking usually resolves things better than silence imo (and sooner rather than later so it doesnt become a 'thing') but its not usually up to the offended person to apologize. this all stemmed from something you said (rightly or wrongly). her behavior was then a reaction to that

like, say im at work and i make a joke about something and 5 people laugh and the 6th is majorly offended - I would apologize to that person and say i won't make that kind of joke again. It doesnt matter if i think its silly, its not my place to decide which things other people can be upset or offended by

now if the thing i did which was a problem was something bigger, like say the 6th person was offended that i had grown a beard or drove a car, then thats different, its not appropriate for me to change that or even apologize for it - but a joke? its not a problem to back down, take on the chin and say sorry

unless making that kind of comment is important to you and you would like to again

also, if you apologize then it is more likely you will be able to find out exactly WHY she was offended by it
 
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Chick sounds coo coo for coca puffs. If you call her, you validate her weirdness and make it 'okay.' Do not call. Let her realize that she over reacted. Otherwise, get used to this being the norm.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This would be my plan of attack: Call her, meet up with her, diffuse the 'situation'(figure out why she got mad, and apologize; despite how you feel about it.) Once she's happy again change the subject, seduce her, and have great makeup sex.

If this is a girl you're interested in I wouldn't wait for her to contact you. Men should be men. So be a man and take control of the relationship. And like someone else said the longer you let it drag out, the bigger of an issue it's going to become. Next time she pisses you off don't run away from it. Confront her and make her realize she being a b1tch.
 
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Crissco said:
Long story short, we were having a great day today and we were at the time. Theres this gay kid we know and i said in a joking way, wow im surprised he doesn't want me, every gay guy wants me.

She goes very serious with her body language bent towards me....because he doesnt want tool bags....i got a bit angry, normally i laugh about it and go ur the one dating the tool bag..but it was her body language that got to me and how serious she was. She was almost crying that i said ill talk to u tomorow and walked away and drove away slow. Also now her FB status says sleeping forever with a cry face....

Should i call her and talk it out or wait for her to call me.


Also weve been seeing eachother almost everyday for 6 weeks(i know 2 much) but starting officially dating yesterday.
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Call her up and say something nice you jerk lol nah JK but seriously, let it cool down for now and call her up. Why? because this is what shes thinking if you dont call her, ::she looks at her phone to see if she has any missed calls or messages:: "I cant believe he's not even calling me" now shes debating in her mind if she should send you a text. she wont call you, ever since the text message was invented, girls LOVE it. they can hide their emotion behind the text message. anyway,... call her up if you really like her and smooth things out.
 
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She ended up calling me yesterday. She stayed the night.. She is now on her way bringing me soup bc im sick
 
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Crissco said:
She ended up calling me yesterday. She stayed the night.. She is now on her way bringing me soup bc im sick
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haahah good job ! it's funny how sex fixes everything :)
 
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