thebestthing
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haha it's appreciated anyway, I'm just glad no fighting happened.Desert Fox said:damn I shoulda read the post before mine...fvck it. lol good luck
I'll keep the advice in mind.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
haha it's appreciated anyway, I'm just glad no fighting happened.Desert Fox said:damn I shoulda read the post before mine...fvck it. lol good luck
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh, you're cool.eaglez1177 said:wow this whole situation is just pathetic
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That kid is a p*ssythebestthing said:Just to let everyone know, the fight was roughly 7 hours ago. I showed up, his friends were a bunch of tight-pants, eyeliner wearing skater emo *****es, and when a friend of mine walked up they looked at eachother like they were scared, lmao.
So **** was getting underway, and we see this lady walking up to us. Turns out, it's the kids mom. She comes up, asks what the hell we're doing here, ask what the deal is. My sister's like 'This little kid won't leave my brother alone.'
And she's like 'OH, he's the one that molested that girl up there?'
It's like dead silent, and my friend stephen just busts out "Oh GOD, I wouldn't molest that thing."
Even the mom laughed, ended up backhanding her kid in front of us, then took him home.
Just wanted to throw the update out there for everyone that's been helping.
Here's what you do. Next time you see him, punch the f*cker in the face. Right out of the blue when he doesn't expect it. Kick his ass, don't take no sh*t. And stop being so scared of getting your ass kicked. Almost no one ever got seriously hurt in a high-school fight. An what if you receive a few punches, SO WHAT. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.No fighting, fortunately, which is what I wanted to avoid in the first place. I was only doing it to get the kid off my ass, but even then he's still texting me and calling me a *****.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Original kid left me alone.Colerbear said:Yeah keep your chin tucked in hands up and whatever you do. DONT stop hitting him. And to give a punch you need to take a punch so if you cant take a couple punches dont even plan on going.
You could win the fight with this piece of advice alone.snowdog said:Yea, that's the way. Show that f*cker you're not scared.
If things are about to go haywire, be sure to be the first one to punch. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude don't go starting some new **** now or you'll just end up in the same situation again. You gotta be the bigger man and just let this dramatic bull end already.thebestthing said:Original kid left me alone.
Kids brother is the one talking **** to me now. Him and his band are playing at a local venue this Friday. We're attending, just to start trouble.
It was yesterday, actually. I decided against attending. Everything's been quiet all day.Get-With-It said:Dude don't go starting some new **** now or you'll just end up in the same situation again. You gotta be the bigger man and just let this dramatic bull end already.