"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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davester88

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FInally went out to a hockey game with a girl that I am into tonite....we had really good rapport, lots of flirting, the usual IOI's that you would expect...all was going well, I had a few beer in me, and I actually told her that there was something different about her, compared to all the girls I'd been with/seen in the past....

we got talking and I kind of half went for the kiss...she didnt outright reject it,but she said she doesnt do that on the first date, so clearly she's tossing out the sluutt shield...She clearly enjoyed herself and had a blast....and also complimented me on having the balls to tell her what I thought about her...

how would you guys handle this from here on out? I had a generally good nite, but just curious as to how you would progress with this girl, I do see her everysingle day because she is in 2 of my classes at school.

Any help/suggestions are VERY much appreciated

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I remember that happened to me too. My date was dropping me off home (yes, it sounds pathetic, but I don't drive, and she really wanted to go on a date with me so what can I do?) and I went in for the kiss. She kind of refused, and she's like "no...just a kiss on the cheek okay?" So I just kissed her on the cheek. I went home thinking I fvcked up badly, but next day I planned another date a couple days later. We were making out the entire night.

Has she kissed before? Girls will always be uncomfortable when it comes to their first kiss, or their first couple kisses.
 

davester88

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Yeah, she has definitely kissed before and isn't a rookie at it for sure.....any other explanations or tips how to carry through with this?? I do plan on calling her/seeing her again...
 
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