Field report (want advice)

[AntoniousIV]

For some reason I become an "extrovert" at work and have almost 0 inhibition. I'm working part time as a waiter before college.

So at work there was this one girl in the kitchen, a "salatress" (someone who makes salads). And when I first saw her I found her cute. I saw her through a window where they give us food to give to the customers, she's in the back of the kitchen. And as I've done previously, I like to "stare" with a warm smile at girls.
I "stared" at her to kinda see if she'd stare back (looking for an ioi). And the first 2 times it didn't work, so I waited around 40mins between my "stares"
(not to be creepy). And the 4th time she was actually waiting for me to stare at her (through the window) and had a sort of laugh/grin when I did. And I noticed she'd smile towards me when she'd catch me staring after that, and I thought I had her. So I was happy and stuff and was waiting for a moment to talk to her.

The next day we we're both morning shift, and she finished before me. I saw her leaving and went to talk to her.

me:Hey I think you're cute, what's your name?
her: I'm Sarah.
me: Do you have a boyfriend? (can't ask her if she's single, cus no such word exists in my language)
her: No.
me: Okay let's go out when you're free, what's your number.
(she was smiling the whole time)
her: I have instagram.
me: I don't.
her: well some other time.
me: sure, what's your number
her: some other time.
me: ok (and I walked away)
(didn't use a false time constraint cus idk what's the purpose of it)

I was sort of confused, but didn't care cus I have another plate. So the next 2-3 days I was just focusing on the job, and trying not to look at her (she's pretty). To which I succeded. I noticed she was looking at me and waiting for me to look back.

Then the 3rd day (today) the chief said to me "what do you think about Sarah?". And he's a cool guy so I told him openly that I asked for her number and she said no. Then he said "I'll take care of it". (He told me that she put him up to it afterwards)
After 15mins I asked for my daily meal, and a woman in the kitchen said "Sarah wants to know what garnish do you want? She knows but she wanted to ask you.". So I said what I always eat. Then after 10mins it hit me, I should've asked for her number as garnish. So I went back and said I want her number on a piece of paper as garnish to the kitchen lady. And she passed along the message.

When I recieved the meal it had no such garnish(no note with her number). So after finishing my meal I told the kitchen lady that the meal was missing something, and for her to tell Sarah.

30mins after, a waiter said someone in the kitchen was asking for me to come. I go there and voila, there's the note with her number. (I checked it on viber it's not a fake).

So now it's 7:40pm (she gave me the note 5hours ago). I'm wondering when should I call her? I saw a post saying that "a true DJ makes her wait 5 days". But if I did that what do I do at work? Do I stare or ghost during those 5 days? Help......

 

[Clockwerk50]

When do you see her next?

Since you work together, when you see her next, don’t stare at her or ghost her. Just be friendly, joke around, and see if things develop naturally. You don’t necessarily need her number to hang out since you already work at the same place. You could ask if you can accompany her to her car or the bus, and that could be a way to spend some one-on-one time together and see if things progress from there. Or, if she gets a ride, you could ask her to hang out after work.

Also, I think that since you guys work together, you should build more rapport before officially asking her out.

Lastly, if you’re a novice, don’t **** where you eat.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Don't overthink this...just ask her out.

This chick is going to be mindfvcking you for entertainment based on how this has started and she already knows she has got you. Plus you work together and it's the perfect place to give you got and cold vibes so you think she is interested one minute and then as soon as you get close she pulls the carrot away again.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

For some reason I become an "extrovert" at work and have almost 0 inhibition. I'm working part time as a waiter before college.

So at work there was this one girl in the kitchen, a "salatress" (someone who makes salads). And when I first saw her I found her cute. I saw her through a window where they give us food to give to the customers, she's in the back of the kitchen. And as I've done previously, I like to "stare" with a warm smile at girls.
I "stared" at her to kinda see if she'd stare back (looking for an ioi). And the first 2 times it didn't work, so I waited around 40mins between my "stares"
(not to be creepy). And the 4th time she was actually waiting for me to stare at her (through the window) and had a sort of laugh/grin when I did. And I noticed she'd smile towards me when she'd catch me staring after that, and I thought I had her. So I was happy and stuff and was waiting for a moment to talk to her.

The next day we we're both morning shift, and she finished before me. I saw her leaving and went to talk to her.

me:Hey I think you're cute, what's your name?
her: I'm Sarah.
me: Do you have a boyfriend? (can't ask her if she's single, cus no such word exists in my language)
her: No.
me: Okay let's go out when you're free, what's your number.
(she was smiling the whole time)
her: I have instagram.
me: I don't.
her: well some other time.
me: sure, what's your number
her: some other time.
me: ok (and I walked away)
(didn't use a false time constraint cus idk what's the purpose of it)

I was sort of confused, but didn't care cus I have another plate. So the next 2-3 days I was just focusing on the job, and trying not to look at her (she's pretty). To which I succeded. I noticed she was looking at me and waiting for me to look back.

Then the 3rd day (today) the chief said to me "what do you think about Sarah?". And he's a cool guy so I told him openly that I asked for her number and she said no. Then he said "I'll take care of it". (He told me that she put him up to it afterwards)
After 15mins I asked for my daily meal, and a woman in the kitchen said "Sarah wants to know what garnish do you want? She knows but she wanted to ask you.". So I said what I always eat. Then after 10mins it hit me, I should've asked for her number as garnish. So I went back and said I want her number on a piece of paper as garnish to the kitchen lady. And she passed along the message.

When I recieved the meal it had no such garnish(no note with her number). So after finishing my meal I told the kitchen lady that the meal was missing something, and for her to tell Sarah.

30mins after, a waiter said someone in the kitchen was asking for me to come. I go there and voila, there's the note with her number. (I checked it on viber it's not a fake).

So now it's 7:40pm (she gave me the note 5hours ago). I'm wondering when should I call her? I saw a post saying that "a true DJ makes her wait 5 days". But if I did that what do I do at work? Do I stare or ghost during those 5 days? Help......

Didnt you recently lost you v-card with a virgin girl? What happened with her? Is she not appealing to you as long term material?

I get that you are young and Im guessing you are courious to spin plates but Its gonna get harder and harder to find another virgin girl as you age. I assumed you were going exclusive with her.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Didnt you recently lost you v-card with a virgin girl? What happened with her? Is she not appealing to you as long term material?

I get that you are young and Im guessing you are courious to spin plates but Its gonna get harder and harder to find another virgin girl as you age. I assumed you were going exclusive with her.

The virgin girl that I got laid with lives far away, 200km. She lives in the city where I'm going to college to. I might be exclusive with her then. But that"s in 2-3 months.
We text regularly but, I want something for right now, a girl from my city.
The "virgin" girl is a pretty good girl. Pretty well mannered and stuff. I also think she likes me. But she used to go out drinking regularly (not sure if it's still the case). And has no father. So I'd prefer her not drinking at all if we were to be exclusive, and I could prolly think of other boundaries.
She did ask me the night before we got laid "what are we" and I just said idk and continued with a diff topic.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

The virgin girl that I got laid with lives far away, 200km. She lives in the city where I'm going to college to. I might be exclusive with her then. But that"s in 2-3 months.
We text regularly but, I want something for right now, a girl from my city.
The "virgin" girl is a pretty good girl. Pretty well mannered and stuff. I also think she likes me. But she used to go out drinking regularly (not sure if it's still the case). And has no father. So I'd prefer her not drinking at all if we were to be exclusive, and I could prolly think of other boundaries.
She did ask me the night before we got laid "what are we" and I just said idk and continued with a diff topic.

Its your choice, bro. Hopefully in 10-30 years you are not starting threads about "I cant find any quality women, they all have red flags" or stuff along those lines.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Its your choice, bro. Hopefully in 10-30 years you are not starting threads about "I cant find any quality women, they all have red flags" or stuff along those lines.

When you put it that way, I do wanna get exclusive. But initiating it during text seems bad. And I think I should kinda ask her if she wants to first, but do it when I see her. Or wait for her to bring it up again. So I can talk about some boundaries. Cus being exclusive with a girl who goes drinking regularly would prolly make me really anxious about her cheating.

 

[Velasco]

I saw a post saying that "a true DJ makes her wait 5 days".

doing this tells them ur playing games. and will cause the majority of girls to autoreject. i’ve banged several girls i work with. she gave u her number. text her. hey this is antonious from work. get into a little back and forth about her writing u her number on a piece of paper and then find out when she’s free