Field report - NYE houseparty - learn from this

[TheGambino]

I was invited to a house party due a friend. So had a couple of beers and didn't think much of women that night because it was unclear which women would come. Though my buddy invited some random girls and the host his girl with her girlfriend would come too.

At 11 all the women came in, we were with like 9 guys and 7 women.

I was just having fun with my buddy, enjoying my beer and night but ofc I was down to find me new plates to spin.

First the girl that was already there was asking me some questions, like who are you and stuff. Getting some IoI's but nothing serious. I was having fun with talking to her and that was that. 5 guys were giving her attention like hyena's so I figured to do my own thing regarding her. She followed me on Instagram the next morning though.

The other ladies; I saw one girl that spiked my interest. She was my type and I approached them and talked to the 3 on the couch. Introducing myself and asking where they from and how they got here. Some blablabla and the girls stood up and I started to chat to the girl I liked. She was on me too. Legs crossed towards me, leaning over, playing with her hair and opening up real quick. She talked my ears off, she been to the city in a foreign country my mom is from so we talked a lot about that and I asked questions and let her chat like you should do.

I also kino'd, grabbed her hands sometimes, and put my arm around her on the couch. We were both boozed up a bit so I went for the kill (action). By the way, again again again; If she's interested, if she finds you attractive, she will make it easy. Sit right next to you when she comes back from the toilet, making eye contact and leaning in to you. It's clear, all you got to do is take action to take it to the next level.

So I did, I grabbed her hand and said lets go to the kitchen. Instantly her best friend follows us and says 'sorry i look out for my friend, she's been hurt a lot by a guy in the past, she doesnt know you'. so I laughed it off and said I understand but stayed there. When her friend left I grabbed the girl towards me to hugg and she was happy too then I leaned in for a kiss and she rejected me. She said no sorry i am not like that, I cant now. I laughed it off and we went outside. Told her friend I'll take care of her, don't worry I am not like that. Were having fun, I won't hurt her feelings.

Left her a bit and went inside. She came in, sit next to me and we start all over, I kino, she talks and lays on my shoulder blablabla. Again I grabb her hand after 30 minutes and lead her to the kitchen where I try to kiss and get rejected again lmao. Her friend came again to look 'after her'. I figured to pull back now and started to chat up other people. Then her friend comes too me and says 'shes waiting for you outside, she asks for you'. So I go to her and we kino a lot drink some booze and talk on the couch again. I number close her and I ask her to go with me for a ride. She says 'I would love too but I have to ask my friend' She came back with 'No we got to go in 10 minutes sorry'. I tried to ask her again but she says sorry we stay in contact.

I felt like I was too hungry, overall this night. There was attraction but I was trying a bit too hard which backfired a bit.

I texted her 1 hour after she left 'Hey'. She read it but didn't reply back or didn't add me on whatsapp. Its already the next day so I think its a rejection.

At least I tried, at least I felt like I still got my game after so long in lockdown, I didn't game any women. Too needy, but I am happy on the action taking part.

Main thing:

I feel strong, getting my shape back, feeling well, I still got my game, too needy when on alcohol, that is really my killer. I have to be more abundant, try twice, then pull back. I had a good night though.

--GAMB

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Great that you put yourself out there and had some interactions with women that went mostly well. Don't worry too much about the end result, those type of things are always 50/50 at best. The more you do this the more you will have success.

I would have probably texted something like "It was very nice meeting you tonight" and then teased her about something we had talked about.

But either way, just keep doing stuff like this and you will keep improving.

 

[bat soup]

I was invited to a house party due a friend. So had a couple of beers and didn't think much of women that night because it was unclear which women would come. Though my buddy invited some random girls and the host his girl with her girlfriend would come too.

At 11 all the women came in, we were with like 9 guys and 7 women.

I was just having fun with my buddy, enjoying my beer and night but ofc I was down to find me new plates to spin.

First the girl that was already there was asking me some questions, like who are you and stuff. Getting some IoI's but nothing serious. I was having fun with talking to her and that was that. 5 guys were giving her attention like hyena's so I figured to do my own thing regarding her. She followed me on Instagram the next morning though.

The other ladies; I saw one girl that spiked my interest. She was my type and I approached them and talked to the 3 on the couch. Introducing myself and asking where they from and how they got here. Some blablabla and the girls stood up and I started to chat to the girl I liked. She was on me too. Legs crossed towards me, leaning over, playing with her hair and opening up real quick. She talked my ears off, she been to the city in a foreign country my mom is from so we talked a lot about that and I asked questions and let her chat like you should do.

I also kino'd, grabbed her hands sometimes, and put my arm around her on the couch. We were both boozed up a bit so I went for the kill (action). By the way, again again again; If she's interested, if she finds you attractive, she will make it easy. Sit right next to you when she comes back from the toilet, making eye contact and leaning in to you. It's clear, all you got to do is take action to take it to the next level.

So I did, I grabbed her hand and said lets go to the kitchen. Instantly her best friend follows us and says 'sorry i look out for my friend, she's been hurt a lot by a guy in the past, she doesnt know you'. so I laughed it off and said I understand but stayed there. When her friend left I grabbed the girl towards me to hugg and she was happy too then I leaned in for a kiss and she rejected me. She said no sorry i am not like that, I cant now. I laughed it off and we went outside. Told her friend I'll take care of her, don't worry I am not like that. Were having fun, I won't hurt her feelings.

Left her a bit and went inside. She came in, sit next to me and we start all over, I kino, she talks and lays on my shoulder blablabla. Again I grabb her hand after 30 minutes and lead her to the kitchen where I try to kiss and get rejected again lmao. Her friend came again to look 'after her'. I figured to pull back now and started to chat up other people. Then her friend comes too me and says 'shes waiting for you outside, she asks for you'. So I go to her and we kino a lot drink some booze and talk on the couch again. I number close her and I ask her to go with me for a ride. She says 'I would love too but I have to ask my friend' She came back with 'No we got to go in 10 minutes sorry'. I tried to ask her again but she says sorry we stay in contact.

I felt like I was too hungry, overall this night. There was attraction but I was trying a bit too hard which backfired a bit.

I texted her 1 hour after she left 'Hey'. She read it but didn't reply back or didn't add me on whatsapp. Its already the next day so I think its a rejection.

At least I tried, at least I felt like I still got my game after so long in lockdown, I didn't game any women. Too needy, but I am happy on the action taking part.

Main thing:

I feel strong, getting my shape back, feeling well, I still got my game, too needy when on alcohol, that is really my killer. I have to be more abundant, try twice, then pull back. I had a good night though.

--GAMB

She probably told her friend to kochblock you. If she was interested she'd have told her friend to butt out. As for her being "not like that" it's BS. She totally would be with the right guy.

Good that you tried, though. I'm wondering if you're escalating smoothly or if you're trying to make sudden jumps. That could be the problem.

 

[Romanemp22]

I wouldn't say you were too hungry as you say. I would do it the same because what do you have to lose? Nothing ofcourse.

I never liked picking up women in parties like that because most of them think they are Gods gift to that party and are there for free drinks and free attention from guys, especially if they are outnumbered.

 

[bat soup]

I wouldn't say you were too hungry as you say. I would do it the same because what do you have to lose? Nothing ofcourse.

I never liked picking up women in parties like that because most of them think they are Gods gift to that party and are there for free drinks and free attention from guys, especially if they are outnumbered.

Yeah and parties are often full of attention whoares, which is what this one appears to be. She talks Bla bla bla all night and when you go for the kiss it's "I'm not that kind of girl". Why does she think men talk to her?

 

[TheGambino]

She probably told her friend to kochblock you. If she was interested she'd have told her friend to butt out. As for her being "not like that" it's BS. She totally would be with the right guy.

Good that you tried, though. I'm wondering if you're escalating smoothly or if you're trying to make sudden jumps. That could be the problem.

Ye nailed it.

 

[Medina]

Always text the following day. "Hi. How are you feeling after last night?"

Guarantee you would have gotten a reply. Works every time

 

[Georgepithyou]

If she's interested, if she finds you attractive, she will make it easy.

This is very true, the more co operative a woman is the more she is into you. Interested women don't make excuses

 

[bat soup]

This is very true, ghe more co operative a woman is the more she is into you. Interested women don't make excuses

Men have to stop believing what women say. Believe what they do.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I know they say not to say, "Just be yourself," but if you're just being yourself and she ain't havin' any of it, then fvck her, she ain't worth it and she'll NEVER be worth it cause she doesn't recognize value (someone who is what he is and thinks uniquely from others as an individual not as apart of the 'herd'). I can yuck it up and be sh!tfaced and crazy and stupid and 'light' at a get-together because I work around a lot of stupid guys (who have wives or girlfriends and are quite blue-pilled), but if I had my druthers, I'd be one-on-one with a woman. Our 99.5% time in ancestry dating back millions of years evolved Socially (contrary to popular belief that it was mano-y-mano and "individualistic" cave man during those ancient days) and hunted in bands usually 9, 10, 11, to a hunt with our original (small) reptilian complex part of the brain (lower back part) and limbic system still developing through time (today Very strong in communication with one another).

It's only been 12,000 some-odd years since the invention of the bow (simultaneously across the planet oddly), that we've become Individualistic or "families" able to hunt with just one man to feed everyone. This developed our 'new' cerebral neocortex (with weak communication/connections to the long-developed rest of the lower hindbrain). So we're constantly trying to 'tame' our hindbrains. So in your progress in taming your hindbrain, would you call it still a "lion" or a tamer "wolf" or a totally subdued "puppy dog or doggy" that you can tell it "no" and it obeys readily?

So Most people are Still stuck in the "social" million-year way of being/thinking to where they've gotta have norms, customs, rules, RELIGION, to operate. I imagine most of the people at the party are like that. It's a Wanting to be with or in the 'mob.' For millions of years you were thrown out of or executed from the tribe if you did Not conform.

Only recently have we been freed from all that via our frontal lobes which have massively grown (or been utilized) in recent history. It wasn't until 700,000 years ago that we began to develop our big brains after hunting for millions of years hunting in 'conformist' hunting bands (to take down large animals without a kill-from-a-distance-invention like the bow). We do not know WHY we Started growing our cerebral neocortex at 700,000 years ago but that is when A LOT of animals like the giraffe, the extinct sabertooth tiger, wholly mammoths, and various other fossilized giant animals just sprung up all of a sudden to coincide with a meteorite impact West of Australia in the ocean covering a 400,000 square mile fallout zone, which in turn shifted the poles wreaking havoc across the planet. It's happened several times throughout geological history. So a compass would point South rather than North (today) pre-700,000 years ago.

Edit: So a theory is that during about 5,000 years 700,000 years ago, the Earth had no magnetic field and thus cosmic rays where unblocked causing diverse mutations across the planet. Just a theory, but something to think about.

 

[TheGambino]

I know they say not to say, "Just be yourself," but if you're just being yourself and she ain't havin' any of it, then fvck her, she ain't worth it and she'll NEVER be worth it cause she doesn't recognize value (someone who is what he is and thinks uniquely from others as an individual not as apart of the 'herd'). I can yuck it up and be sh!tfaced and crazy and stupid and 'light' at a get-together because I work around a lot of stupid guys (who have wives or girlfriends and are quite blue-pilled), but if I had my druthers, I'd be one-on-one with a woman. Our 99.5% time in ancestry dating back millions of years evolved Socially (contrary to popular belief that it was mano-y-mano and "individualistic" cave man during those ancient days) and hunted in bands usually 9, 10, 11, to a hunt with our original (small) reptilian complex part of the brain (lower back part) and limbic system still developing through time (today Very strong in communication with one another).

It's only been 12,000 some-odd years since the invention of the bow (simultaneously across the planet oddly), that we've become Individualistic or "families" able to hunt with just one man to feed everyone. This developed our 'new' cerebral neocortex (with weak communication/connections to the long-developed rest of the lower hindbrain). So we're constantly trying to 'tame' our hindbrains. So in your progress in taming your hindbrain, would you call it still a "lion" or a tamer "wolf" or a totally subdued "puppy dog or doggy" that you can tell it "no" and it obeys readily?

So Most people are Still stuck in the "social" million-year way of being/thinking to where they've gotta have norms, customs, rules, RELIGION, to operate. I imagine most of the people at the party are like that. It's a Wanting to be with or in the 'mob.' For millions of years you were thrown out of or executed from the tribe if you did Not conform.

Only recently have we been freed from all that via our frontal lobes which have massively grown (or been utilized) in recent history. It wasn't until 700,000 years ago that we began to USE our big brains that we had already grown for millions of years hunting in 'conformist' hunting bands (to take down large animals without a kill-from-a-distance-invention like the bow). We do not know WHY we Started USING our cerebral neocortex at 700,000 years ago but that is when A LOT of animals like the giraffe, the extinct sabertooth tiger, wholly mammoths, an various other fossilized giant animals just sprung up all of a sudden to coincide with a meteorite impact West of Australia in the ocean covering a 400,000 square mile fallout zone, which in turn shifted the poles wreaking havoc across the planet. It's happened several times throughout geological history. So a compass would point South rather than North (today) pre-700,000 years ago.

What your trying to say bro?

 

[Çharismo]

@TheGambino — Hey man I commend you for being aggressive and making a move. It seems that she was just using you for attention and used her friend as an excuse who was also c0ck blocking her. As much as we have evolved and as much as civilization has advanced and considering women are not treated as second class citizens anymore you would think women would use there own brains in making decisions rather than asking there “friends” on what to do about the situation that they are in or if they like the guy or not. I know some of you might point out the unfair pay gap that exists which I’m not talking about but rather all the rights women have nowadays and being “strong” “independent” and everything else in between yet they continue to think and behave like spoiled children.

Another perspective might be that you being aggressive...back fired because it might have made you seem too thirsty for her and only after one thing. I know if the right guy shows up she would have hopped in bed in less than a second.

Don’t take any of this personally but chalk it up to the game. Keep the pimp hand strong!!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

"sorry i look out for my friend she's been hurt a lot by a guy in the past, she doesnt know you"

Translation: "my friend is a total slvt"

 

[Georgepithyou]

Another perspective might be that you being aggressive...back fired because it might have made you seem too thirsty for her

Where do you draw the line with being "Too aggressive"? The problem is if you aren't aggressive enough you get lumped in the friendzone.

It's hard to find the perfect balance.

 

[TheGambino]

"sorry i look out for my friend she's been hurt a lot by a guy in the past, she doesnt know you"

Translation: "my friend is a total slvt"

yesss 1000% lol

 

[Çharismo]

Where do you draw the line with being "Too aggressive"? The problem is if you aren't aggressive enough you get lumped in the friendzone.

It's hard to find the perfect balance.

It all depends on the situation and the type of woman you are dealing with. There isn’t an established way in dealing with situations like this and even after having experience and being in these types of environments and dealing with women it happens to the best of us. That’s just the way it is and no one can really avoid things like this. All you gotta do is take one on the chin and keep it moving forward. But one thing is for sure rejection is better than being friend-zoned.

As for being in the friend zone that’s a completely different thing. From my experience that’s another form of rejection even if you were aggressive or not the woman can friend-zone you. So instead of shoooing you away the woman wants to keep you around and use you for whatever the reason might be. (Attention, validation, gifts, resources, connections, social proof...etc). Even if you are being aggressive or not she knows you like her and are a slave to your desires which she can take advantage of. A guy that is friend-zoned is basically a prey (guy) for a predator (the woman friend-zoning him).

 

[NSX-R]

I’ve been in the same situation few times . What i came to realize maybe there is some other guy in the background and things ain’t going so well , so you op and the hb seem to vibin in that moment and things progressed . When things progressed enough and you made your move , old dude kicks in in her subconscious and she backs off . In your particular situation our clue for that is when her friend told you that dudes used to use her , in other words there is some other guy in the play . So our question is why would she be like that with you and attract some sexual play . Hypergamy is one but i believe validation thirst is more of a solid answer . She proved to herself by making you pick her up that she’s attractive and that she can have any dude she want . Since she got what she wanted you became just another stranger .

Personally i would try only once to kiss her and if i got rejected no more tries and zero interest from my part forever. Personally i don’t believe that you did something wrong , you showed genuine attraction and the whole situation went there.At least you proved to you and her that you aint no chicken who’s afraid to make a move .