"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Field report - improvements

EJay

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Long post so bear with me.

Friend invites me to his bday party. I get there and it's a bunch of gay guys (this is Hollywood after all) and one girl (7) so I thought it'd be good practice. BUT I went AFC since it was my friend's bday and asked him if he was gonna go for it. I really didn't want to c-block him. He says whatever happens happens no hard feelings.
I introduced myself to everyone, made conversation and established social proof. She came up to me and introduced herself. I ignored her for a little while then I made a joke to get her attention. We talked a bit and flirted for a couple minutes. After that I excused myself to talk to some other people.

After a while they cranked the music and I did a little breakdancing to demonstrate value. She complimented me and again we talked and filrted for a while. Eventually I isolate her outside while she's smoking and stand close to her, it was cold so she leaned into me. Was going for a kiss close when the people from inside came out and she said we should go inside.

We danced a bit, grinded and she told me she was on molly. So, I kissed her neck a bit to try and pump her buying temp and after a moment she pulled away very slowly and I did the same making sure to ignore it. We grinded some more and decided to exchange #'s, so like an idiot I pulled out my phone to add me on fbook but she saw my tinder app which was up with a girls profile pic. Still got her # so it wasn't a big deal. Since I had to be up semi-early I said I have to go and asked if she was staying, she said yeah so I bounced.

Obviously some really dumb mistakes were made like having that app open, I should have gone for a 2nd kiss close, and I could have phrased my close attempt to get her home better, anything else I can improve on? What's a better way to bring the conversation around to getting the two of us out of there? How should I follow up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How about not asking a girl for her Facebook? That's like the worst thing you can do. Also If there is any potential to sleep with a chick that night, you probably should go for it. I don't care if you have to wake up in 2 hours, you should have closed. No girl would spend so much time dancing with you to have it mean nothing...
 

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Nickface said:
How about not asking a girl for her Facebook? That's like the worst thing you can do. Also If there is any potential to sleep with a chick that night, you probably should go for it. I don't care if you have to wake up in 2 hours, you should have closed. No girl would spend so much time dancing with you to have it mean nothing...
Yeah, I definitely should have gone for the close more.
I got her #, text her after a few days?
 

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EJay said:
I got her #, text her after a few days?
Always call like 3-4 days after getting the number. IME it's a lot easier for a girl to play games through text messages.
 

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TheCleanPleb said:
Always call like 3-4 days after getting the number. IME it's a lot easier for a girl to play games through text messages.
Good point! I'll do that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay so I texted her figuring if she's still interested then it was worth a shot and if not then I can next her. She responded and we set up a date Friday.

Not bad, IMO.
 

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Weird I have almost the same field report. lol. Thursday night…was out with my boys, and I was establishing social value by talking to everyone at the club. Randomly chatted up this one chick who was an HB 6 (could have been an HB 4, I was wasted). We started grinding on the dance floor and I started feeling her up. We made out a few times. Didn't ask for her FB since I don't use it but I number closed. She didn't let me use tongue (????) so I just shrugged it off.

We are going out this Friday as well.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Weird I have almost the same field report. lol. Thursday night…was out with my boys, and I was establishing social value by talking to everyone at the club. Randomly chatted up this one chick who was an HB 6 (could have been an HB 4, I was wasted). We started grinding on the dance floor and I started feeling her up. We made out a few times. Didn't ask for her FB since I don't use it but I number closed. She didn't let me use tongue (????) so I just shrugged it off.

We are going out this Friday as well.
Dude, baller! Dancing is such a great way to gauge IOI and it's evolutionarily (spelling?) used as a mating ritual.
If you're in LA needing a wing PM me.
 
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