field report: ego bashed but no regrets

[DJ Alejandro]

i waz looking for a way of approaching women just for the sake of approaching them without any strings attached. i mean, just approach without having them think that im interested.

maybe i should have approached only the girlz with whom i was interested in but i thought that it was only practice so a girl is a girl. so i took off and did it.

im in the school paper and i 'volunteered' to distribute the most recent issue in the school grounds. knowing that it should be done face-to-face in my case, i thought it would be good practice. so here goes:

first group of girls i approached was around 5. i just came up. i said if they haven't gotten the school paper yet they should get it already. i was holding on to it. at first they had these very 'what-the?' looks but they turned out ok.

another group i approached was ok. they were very open and i didn't get shot down. i didn't ask for any of their numbers yet but i made a few friends after figuring out that it would be better to introduce myself first like, hi! im from blah blah...

there was this girl who was DEFINITELY and HB1 in my scale (just trust me on this one). thinking that she probably wasn't getting approached that often, i went for it and what happend was like this.

me: hi! im Alejandro and im from the <name of skul paper>.
her: <blank look>
me:you should get your copy. you paid for it already anyway. <with my best smile>
her: <looks at me from head to toe and rolls her eyez and walks away>
me: <to myself> oh wel, u paid for it already. ur loss.

then i approached one of the popular girls. an HB8.5-9

me: hey there! im from blah blah...
her: hey! wow. special delivery for me. <smile>
me: <smiled and turned around>
me: <now facing her again> hey, ur ??? right? so u ARE friendly. i see u have a nice smile.
her:<giggle>
me:my name's blah blah... <extending my hand for a handshake>
her:<shakes my hand>
me: uh... you can let go of my hand now. <naughty grin>

wel, i still working on my convo. i think i got something right.

i spotted one of the even more popular girlz walking alone so i went up to her.

me: hey! ur ??? right? i saw you dance last night.
her: yeah. you saw me??? OMG! i wasn't aware someone was looking.
me:wel, actually my friend was beside you. <grin>
her:OMG! that was embarassing... blah blah....
me:dont worry. i forgive you. <grin>
her: <blush>
me: SO, u ate chicken for lunch. ( i could smell chicken from her breath)

i approached a few other girlz that day after i closed with the last one. they were the below average girlz tho. i got shot down a few more times.

im noticing a trend here. the more popular girlz are more approachable than those who aren't. i guess they juz have to keep up their reputation of being friendly as a result of being popular. i could be wrong tho.

after distributing about 100 at least, i can say that being ignored and bashed wasn't really THAT bad. im a little more immune nowadays.

please help me with my convos. any comments?

 

[California Love]

Your conversations went well! Light and brief, but definitely displaying your confidence and openness. The one who shot you down must have been one helluva b1tch so don't worry about it. Just keep it up and try finding more situations exactly like this.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

finally! i did a few things right. i think i should begin to screen out a few people then. ok, ive learned my lesson. NEVER APPROACH SCARY ONEZ!!!

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro
finally! i did a few things right. i think i should begin to screen out a few people then. ok, ive learned my lesson. NEVER APPROACH SCARY ONEZ!!!

That and, don't introduce yourself with a name

 

[RaMar]

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro

me: SO, u ate chicken for lunch. ( i could smell chicken from her breath)

ahhaha. Great job man but leave that comment out next time. The rest was ok. Good expirence you are getting though. Lol that chicken line sent me rolling

 

[Capone]

Good job man, approaching is probably the hardest step on the journey of the PUA and is probably one of the hardest.

Me and my buddy went to the mall yesterday and had a similar experience. I got a whole bunch of positive results (YES!), had pic taken, and a few negative results. lol, my friend went up to a group of 5 pretty good looking chicks and told one I wanted her number. I wanted to crash and burn so I went up and said "well?". hahaha. My friend was a bastard and walked away right when I came. It was me vs. 5 chicks who were ballsy because of the me-to-them ratio . Results weren't pretty, but it was worth a laff later. (My friend didn't even help in any way - said he had a girlfriend so he wouldn't approach. not going with him again ).

Anyway, I think you shoulda joked around with the whole newspaper thing. This kinda thing = fun times if you play it right. Like for example, tell a chick theres a really embarassing picture of her in the newspaper, but refuse to give her the newspaper. Give it to her on your own terms and she'll look frantically through it while you laff.

 

[Porky]

"so you ate chicken for lunch."

HAHAHA.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Why is it IRL the UG's are the easy to talk to, but in FR they're the ones that reject you? And vice versa with the HB's, lol.

ANyways sounds like you did pretty good in your conversation, but you could switch to rapport as it involves opened ended questions and brings out her feelings better. I liked the one where you didn't show interest with her (thorugh your body) until she responded positvely. TD was talking about doing that...