"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Field report - be honest!!!

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Stopped by a friends apartment to meet her friend who she had been trying to set me up with.

**** good things ****:
1. smiled a lot

2. looked right into her eyes

3. started kino after about 10 minutes...simple things like touching her knee, lightly caressing her arm, held her wrist to look at watch.

4. i brought in some CDs and showed off my good taste in music, they loved it.

5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.

**** bad things ****:
1. talked to her sunday and somehow my ex girlfriend from YEARS ago came up....she's from the same country and i drew comparisons. that's got to be the worst thing you can do on a first convo.

2. check out this crappy line "is your mom as beautiful as you", because my ex's mom was beautiful too and they're from the same country.

3. i also have a tattoo that was inspired by my ex from the same country, and i told her why i got that particular design....although i sense that she is maybe a little naive and she's only lived in this country for 6 years my insensitive & ignorant comments may have slid right past her.

She is a really delicate but visually stunning little lady. she's really into my intelligence, which i tend to not talk about, and is not evident in my writing (i'm a styilish math geek).

my friend who set us up has pumped her head w/ so much hot air about me that i probably have several more chances with this one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dreamer,

Quit thinking about the 'head games' and make a move.
Hell, ask her out to an auto show, a movie, an ice cream, a zoo, a park..........

Do you get the point?

cave dwell
 

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5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.
This is the only real bad thing I see. I'm guessing you didn't use that phone call to your advantage and set up a date. Keep the convo for the date, not the phone.
 

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uh, i called her today but i blocked my number....first time i ever called her actually and she asked why i was calling from a "private line", i was surprised she picked up on that. she was getting ready to go to a concert and said she'd call back, which is likely...no prob.
 

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alright, we talked today and i said "lets hang out blah blah" but i forgot .... she has plans to go to a club and really wants me to go...i can dance pretty good....good idea? i'm thinking yes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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update

Hung out w/ her again today at a little dinner party and she looked stunning once again...on my scale she's about a 9.5. We kino'd all night and she caressed my arm, lots of smiles and good convo ratio.
 

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Good form , well done.
 
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