"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Field report - be honest!!!

LucidDreamer

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Stopped by a friends apartment to meet her friend who she had been trying to set me up with.

**** good things ****:
1. smiled a lot

2. looked right into her eyes

3. started kino after about 10 minutes...simple things like touching her knee, lightly caressing her arm, held her wrist to look at watch.

4. i brought in some CDs and showed off my good taste in music, they loved it.

5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.

**** bad things ****:
1. talked to her sunday and somehow my ex girlfriend from YEARS ago came up....she's from the same country and i drew comparisons. that's got to be the worst thing you can do on a first convo.

2. check out this crappy line "is your mom as beautiful as you", because my ex's mom was beautiful too and they're from the same country.

3. i also have a tattoo that was inspired by my ex from the same country, and i told her why i got that particular design....although i sense that she is maybe a little naive and she's only lived in this country for 6 years my insensitive & ignorant comments may have slid right past her.

She is a really delicate but visually stunning little lady. she's really into my intelligence, which i tend to not talk about, and is not evident in my writing (i'm a styilish math geek).

my friend who set us up has pumped her head w/ so much hot air about me that i probably have several more chances with this one.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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cave dweller

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Dreamer,

Quit thinking about the 'head games' and make a move.
Hell, ask her out to an auto show, a movie, an ice cream, a zoo, a park..........

Do you get the point?

cave dwell
 

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5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.
This is the only real bad thing I see. I'm guessing you didn't use that phone call to your advantage and set up a date. Keep the convo for the date, not the phone.
 

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uh, i called her today but i blocked my number....first time i ever called her actually and she asked why i was calling from a "private line", i was surprised she picked up on that. she was getting ready to go to a concert and said she'd call back, which is likely...no prob.
 

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alright, we talked today and i said "lets hang out blah blah" but i forgot .... she has plans to go to a club and really wants me to go...i can dance pretty good....good idea? i'm thinking yes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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update

Hung out w/ her again today at a little dinner party and she looked stunning once again...on my scale she's about a 9.5. We kino'd all night and she caressed my arm, lots of smiles and good convo ratio.
 

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Good form , well done.
 
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