"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stopped by a friends apartment to meet her friend who she had been trying to set me up with.

**** good things ****:
1. smiled a lot

2. looked right into her eyes

3. started kino after about 10 minutes...simple things like touching her knee, lightly caressing her arm, held her wrist to look at watch.

4. i brought in some CDs and showed off my good taste in music, they loved it.

5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.

**** bad things ****:
1. talked to her sunday and somehow my ex girlfriend from YEARS ago came up....she's from the same country and i drew comparisons. that's got to be the worst thing you can do on a first convo.

2. check out this crappy line "is your mom as beautiful as you", because my ex's mom was beautiful too and they're from the same country.

3. i also have a tattoo that was inspired by my ex from the same country, and i told her why i got that particular design....although i sense that she is maybe a little naive and she's only lived in this country for 6 years my insensitive & ignorant comments may have slid right past her.

She is a really delicate but visually stunning little lady. she's really into my intelligence, which i tend to not talk about, and is not evident in my writing (i'm a styilish math geek).

my friend who set us up has pumped her head w/ so much hot air about me that i probably have several more chances with this one.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dreamer,

Quit thinking about the 'head games' and make a move.
Hell, ask her out to an auto show, a movie, an ice cream, a zoo, a park..........

Do you get the point?

cave dwell
 

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5. i gave her my # (she would't give me hers) and she called on sunday night, details later.
This is the only real bad thing I see. I'm guessing you didn't use that phone call to your advantage and set up a date. Keep the convo for the date, not the phone.
 

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uh, i called her today but i blocked my number....first time i ever called her actually and she asked why i was calling from a "private line", i was surprised she picked up on that. she was getting ready to go to a concert and said she'd call back, which is likely...no prob.
 

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alright, we talked today and i said "lets hang out blah blah" but i forgot .... she has plans to go to a club and really wants me to go...i can dance pretty good....good idea? i'm thinking yes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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update

Hung out w/ her again today at a little dinner party and she looked stunning once again...on my scale she's about a 9.5. We kino'd all night and she caressed my arm, lots of smiles and good convo ratio.
 

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Good form , well done.
 
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