Field Report - Asked woman out and had a date with another woman tonight.

[like2jam]

So, I finally manned up and asked this woman out tonight that I have been crushing on.

I've seen her a number of times and conversed with her seriously 2 to 3 times. Tonight, she was really being friendly, asking me questions, like what my plans are this weekend. Lots of eye contact, smiling etc.

I said, hey, we should grab a beverage sometime. She said, yeah that would be fun. ( looking down ) Then... I go for the number. She says, I should tell you, I'm seeing someone. So, if it's not like 'that', then yeah, we could hang out.

I took her number anyway and played it smooth. Just said ok. Chatted a bit then said have a nice weekend and left.

Either she IS seeing someone or she was being nice in rejecting me. She's pretty hot and young (HB7.5/8 ), so I wouldn't be surprised if she is seeing someone.

I don't plan on contacting her. But I may bump into her again in a couple of weeks. I'll just play it smooth and act like I never asked her out.

Meanwhile, had yet another date with a 31 year old woman from OKC. Pretty cute. HB7 territory. The date was HORRIBLE. She was totally self centered and it was obvious we weren't into each other. We had one drink and a few awkward exchanges. I walked her out, gave her a hug and that was that.

All in all, not the best night. However, I feel good that I finally asked a woman out again. FFS. It's been too long. I'm on the road now to getting comfortable doing this all the time.

...and on a somewhat positive note, I have a dinner date with this other woman this weekend. Which will at the very least lead to some heavy duty making out and likely a f close. She does have roommates and I know she has to get up early the next day, so we'll see how long I stay and if I enter the bedroom.

 

[Night-hawk]

Cool.

 

[Night-hawk]

Cool, guy.

 

[jjacob]

Flirty girl was either baiting you to ask to feed her ego or that was a pretty solid hurdle she put up that you possibly smacked right into. Shoulda said "Of course it's like 'that'. Your new guy should watch out, I'll hit you up soon" Then just walked away.

 

[like2jam]

jjacob, interesting. I was wondering what a good move might be in that situation. I had no game at that point so yeah, I sorta failed there a bit. I still got the number anyway, but I don't have intention on using it at this point.

I do sort of feel like she was baiting me along. She could have easily mentioned her boyfriend when I asked her if she had anything happening this weekend ( after she asked me about my weekend first ). She knew I was into her, no doubt.

 

[Wolfgang D]

Sounds good! I'd say you can ask that first girl out anyway; maybe a week later, ask her about a specific date. If she says she is busy then, you can drop it. Then maybe pick it up again half a year later - that has worked for me.

Wow, that date with the 31-year-old really crashed and burned, then? I don't think that has happened to me, heh. Usually I keep the conversation going anyway, for maybe forty minutes. Typically leave the coffee/drink place early to go for a walk with the gal instead.

Good luck this weekend!

I am going to a dinner at a girl's place this evening. Did everything exactly right to get this date, pretty proud actually. I should write a Field Report, but I am being lazy.

jjacob, interesting. I was wondering what a good move might be in that situation. I had no game at that point so yeah, I sorta failed there a bit. I still got the number anyway, but I don't have intention on using it at this point.

I do sort of feel like she was baiting me along. She could have easily mentioned her boyfriend when I asked her if she had anything happening this weekend ( after she asked me about my weekend first ). She knew I was into her, no doubt.

Maybe she enjoyed talking to you. She could have thought of going out with you. You know, girls who want to break up with their boyfriend and find someone new often stays with the old one until they are sure of a replacement; some girls just don't like being single for long, or at all. Oh well, no need to think too hard about just one.

 

[like2jam]

The place I was at with the 31 yr old had live music and she is a musician, so she just wanted to listen to that mostly. It was very small and really hard to talk while the singing was going on. Not the best place for a first date. Noted.

We did stay for about 45 minutes to an hour. Still, not too much chatting was done. It's ok though, I wasn't as attracted to her in RL as I thought I would be. A little too tall for me with her body type. I only care about how I handled myself in the situation and how I can improve upon it next time. This process is also making me much more careful about who I will and won't go out with from the dating site.

As for the first girl. I'm going to wait and see how she is 'if' I ever see her again at the place where I met her. I dunno. She's not really on my mind much atm, so that's good.

 

[like2jam]

In such a situation as with the girl who has a bf, if she happens to ask me in the future, "hey, I thought we were going to go get a drink sometime?" I'm thinking... ask her if she's still seeing someone and then if she says yes, I'll say well, let me know when that changes.

What would you do?

 

[switch]

i would "friend" her , then use her as social proof so i can fvck her hot friends.