"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blackatheart

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Is there anyway to remove a fetish? It's sad when I get aroused much easier by non-sexual images than normal sexual images, and I think it's going to hurt me in bed. This isn't even like a normal fetish (ex. foot fetish) - it's more of a submissive one that doesn't fit my personality. lol please don't tell me I need "years of expensive therapy" although if that's what I gotta do, that's what I gotta do. Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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blackatheart

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you know all that s&m bondage stuff- it's annoying how I like being on the receiving end of it lol. any ideas on how to stop liking it so much?
 

Jimbo2k

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Get some self respect and dignity my friend.
 

Celadus

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Haha.

It's going to be hard to stop liking it..I'm know psychologist but there is probably some underlying issue that causes you to like it. Research it on the internet. Probably has something to do with an overbearing mom? Beat that issue and you won't like it so much, I guess. Or you could just have fun with it...Do you like to give it too? Most people probably like it a little once in a little while. Is it the only thing you like to do?

Hehe
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I think I once read that fetishes are usually imprinted during one's childhood.... by which there is connection formed between something observed, and something sexual (even if the two are unrelated).

I think we are sexual beings from the day we are born….and much of our expressed sexuality in adulthood was formulated when we were little. I am quite certain that the intriguing discovery of my dad’s extensive nudie magazine collection, eventually served to advance me beyond my years.
 

Le Parisien

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blackatheart said:
you know all that s&m bondage stuff- it's annoying how I like being on the receiving end of it lol. any ideas on how to stop liking it so much?
I think you are alright, if it was fetishism for animals or young children I would worry, but SM stuff, many people are like that. Guess it's just life.

Personally I find the SM stuff "goofy", and sometimes disgusting when it's too extreme. But overall Id' say you are much less stigmatized than people who are gay or worse: pedophiles.

Personally, I have somewhat a fetishism for girls with long and beautiful legs, especially when they are wearing silky stockings and nice delicate and classy high heel shoes.

I don't really feel ashamed of it although I'm aware of my little secrets.:D If I see a cute tall leggy girl, I won't miss out to check out her legs (any stocking or pantyhose?:rock: ) and her shoes...

Basically don't worry too much man...
 

blackatheart

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alright but I'm saying that it's hard for me to get aroused thinking about having sex with a girl, touching her naked body, etc. but when I think about the s&m stuff I get aroused like it's nothing. now that's a problem.
 

Celadus

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If you decide to accept it, you can go to alt.com and find people who share your fetish. Lots of dominmatrixs on there.

Celadus
 

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Man, nothing wrong with it! My girlfriend dresses up as a nurse or a maid sometimes, and scraches, bites and pinches the fukc out of me while she rides like a bull on top! I love it! And liek you, I am the one in control in the relationship (it doesnt fit my personality at all), but when it comes to sex, the majority of the time its a massive turn on to have a chick in your room who is proud and confident who will just tell you whats up and get down and dirty, screaming like a pig! Why do people in the United States always think someone needs a shrink when they like something thats not "normal"? No wonder you guys have so many problems over there! Shrinks have more problems than anyone else statistically, at least Marriages ones do!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Personally, I have somewhat a fetishism for girls with long and beautiful legs, especially when they are wearing silky stockings and nice delicate and classy high heel shoes.
I always knew you had some embarrassing fetish like this!!! :-D but then again I'm into girls with tight jeans/mini skirts and boots...
 

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Unfortunately for you there is apparently an excess of submissive males and not enough dominant women, so you will be competing for attention even more than the average man does.

I would suggest that you work on training yourself to get aroused in the normal way. Obviously men do not get erections every time they see a girl. If they did, life would be quite simple. There are perceptions which determine whether you do or don't get aroused. Therefore what you need to do is to associate the naked female form with arousal. You need to learn to perceive it as being a trigger for arousal. You might be able to use some of your existing tendencies, but the key is for you to always link a naked female form to your arousal so that the response becomes more automatic.
 

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Just have some b*tch beat you to within inches of your life. You'll be scared into never doing it again lol.
 

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And I thought I was weird because of my watersport fetish.

:p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nothing wrong with bondage fetish IMO.
 

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elchoclo thanks for the advice- I thought of that too but never gave it a try but now I will
 

Warboss Alex

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Fetishes are personal, private things which shouldn't be posted on a forum anyway. No-one has a right to belittle or commend you on your choice of fetish, if it's what makes you happy and it doesn't hurt other people, go for it. Are you and your partner having a good time? That's all that's needed!

I have a really bizarre fetish about my missus. I think I might even be sexually atracted to her. :cool:
 

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see, your missing out on the positives here. you can enjoy sex, and if you have enough experience trust me you wont have trouble getting a hardon. then when you do, sex is a nicety, but it isnt as arousing as your fetishes.

so...that means you can go forever without cumming. women will bow down and kiss your feet if you can get them off 5 times in a row. and when you get really good, your set for life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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