"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Femme to Masculine?

CactusMcDougal

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From what I have read in the DJ Bible many times, masculinity is key in gaining the confidence to build social networks and the like, and it seems to be the core value of SoSuave's community. I have been described as looking very feminine by several female ex-friends, male ex-friends, and even my own mother. When I look in the mirror I do see quite a bit of femme in my look; the face, the legs, etc. But, it's not just the looks, a very brutally honest female ex-friend of mine said that I "act a lot like a girl." I'm not sure how that's true, but apparently it is.

So, here is my question to you, Master DJs of SoSuave, how do I go from Femme to Masculine?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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Hmmm...i just got done reading my psychology of human sexuality book; the chapter was about your situation kinda. How exactly do you look and act like a girl? You know how guys are "suppose" to act so emulate that. Follow gender roles, observe how other guys behave and stop being so feminine.
 

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one way is to work out

the other way is to go to prison...they'll masculine you up real nice
 

CactusMcDougal

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oakraiderz2 said:
Hmmm...i just got done reading my psychology of human sexuality book; the chapter was about your situation kinda. How exactly do you look and act like a girl? You know how guys are "suppose" to act so emulate that. Follow gender roles, observe how other guys behave and stop being so feminine.
For the looks, I've got kind of a rounded face, thin lips, slender jawline. I also have sort of shapely legs, probably genetics since most of my family has muscular legs. I'm not really sure how I act feminine; I was just told that by a female ex-friend.

Mayfly said:
the other way is to go to prison...they'll masculine you up real nice
I don't like the idea of that...I'm not into forced homosexual relations and other generally life-threatening situations.
 

Skilla_Staz

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I'd also recommend hitting the weights. You ca'nt really change your face, but you can change your body.

As for how you act, I'm not exactly sure what you do, so I don't know what you need to change.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bling

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I already know what it is. Get a hair cut. You know how many guys are starting to look like chicks with those long hair cuts. ****ing metros.:crackup:
 

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Bling said:
I already know what it is. Get a hair cut. You know how many guys are starting to look like chicks with those long hair cuts. ****ing metros.:crackup:
Actually, my hair isn't that long. I do have a slight mullet in the back, but other than that everything else is short. Several months ago, I had a buzz cut, actually.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MetalFortress said:
Kill the mullet. NOW.

And lift weights.
SLIGHT mullet. It doesn't have the length to really be called a mullet. I DO, however, have Wolverine sideburns. (Wolverine from X-Men, if you didn't know.) Do you have any recommendations as to how I should get my hair styled?

As for lifting weights, how exactly? Free weight? Machine weight? I've never been on a serious weight lifting regimen before. I did run track for a couple of weeks.


Mr. Unique said:
1. Masterbate only once a week, that will increase testosterone.
2. Eat lots of red meat.
3. Go to the gym, lift weights.
1. Do you have any tips on how to do this? Pornography isn't scarce in my abode, if you know what I mean.

2. My mother is a vegetarian making it very hard to convince her to buy meat.

3. I use the college's gym as part of my P.E. course. Do you have any advice on how and what to lift?

GaryUranga said:
also, use masculine body language, pretend youre a truck driver for a while
I find most truck drivers I know to be vulgar and garish, and they don't attract a lot of women. (Of course, then again, to get a woman in Dallas, you have to be making $100K per annum.)
 

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it was an analogy, keep a manly presence with your body language, watch movies with guys that have manly body language.

also, to not masterbate, just dont do it.. or get busy, when theres things going on you dont feel the urge to do it much
 

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Mayfly said:
one way is to work out

the other way is to go to prison...they'll masculine you up real nice
Lol...

Try to change your style, get a new haircut, buy new cloths and etc'.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GaryUranga

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if youre saying a haircut will make him look more masculine you might be right, but.. Ive got medium hair, lot LONG not short, las friday 2 girls were basically jerking off to it they were saying "nice hair" and touching it :p
 
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