Kev07
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well said wyldfire.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Call me what you want, wayword...but the fact of the matter is...I am happy, have had two great loves in my life, have a wonderful family, and don't ever look to another person to fulfil or complete my life. I'm blessed and if I were to die tomorrow I would have no regrets and would not feel like I missed out on anything. I seriously doubt that you could say the same...wayword said:Uh, aren't you the cougar who dates ex-cons and hasn't had sex in 5 years?
Yet you are giving us advice on "quality control?" :crackup:
Problem is, American women are like Detroit auto in the 70s - overpriced, bloated and poor quality. They're only good for joyriding a few times before they break down on you. This was all due largely to feminism. And when quality is so rare, how can you expect to find a good deal? You can't.
When the entire market is crappy - you can't blame the consumer who has nothing else to choose from.
Holland said:The tendency of this feminist to only look on the negative side of this site says more than enough.
Close the thread please and pray her pathetic attitude is not contagious.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Holland said:The tendency of this feminist to only look on the negative side of this site says more than enough.
Close the thread please and pray her pathetic attitude is not contagious.
LOLWyldfire said:I no longer want my name associated with the cesspool of hatred that this site has become.
Goodbye
Uh, I think both are critical to our well-being and what's wrong with men's rights, anyways? Or anti-feminism/misandrism?Wyldfire said:Holland, the very sad fact is that virtually all of this site has become negative. It didn't used to be like this...but it has changed so much that it's not anything like what it was when I first came here. Allen should never have allowed the anti-feminists to change this site from a dating advice site into a recruiting center for men's rights.
You are overlooking, perhaps intentionally to add weight to your claims, the most obvious and critical element:Wyldfire said:I'm being very honest with you guys...truth be told...you DO sound like a bunch of guys no woman in their right mind would ever want to even date, let alone have a relationship with. It didn't used to be that way. I'm an extremely tolerant person, and there is only a very few posters on here I would even want to be friends with, let alone anything else. There's an awful lot of ugliness on this site, and sadly, I really don't think most of it is real. I think most of it is a bunch of confused guys "fronting" attitudes and personalities that they think the rest of the community expect from them.
It's not only feminists who would find much of what is posted here to be offensive. Any woman would be insulted and offended by it. I'd rather have my daughter tell me she is a lesbian or is marrying a homeless bum than to ever have her date someone from this site. No woman would ever view men from this site as "the prize" based on the crap posted here. That is the way men are portrayed here...and it's not a very good portrayal.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That post I made is a perfect example of what I am saying. This site HAS become a cesspool of hatred...especially in the Mature Men section. I had to leave for awhile because the overall attitude on this site was so disgusting and hateful that I was afraid it would cause me to view all men negatively. I didn't want to do that so I left.TylerDurden said:
Masculism, just like feminism embraces victimhood, teaches excuse-making, weakness of character and fear and breed hatred.wayword said:Uh, I think both are critical to our well-being and what's wrong with men's rights, anyways? Or anti-feminism/misandrism?
*Gasp*
WAKE UP WOMAN - those are all GOOD THINGS for MEN...and an orderly society, to be frank.
What's the matter - afraid of men finally wising up and demanding some truth & fairness in life? Afraid of a dog that no longer wants to be kicked around when lying down? Aww, go cry yourself to sleep then. femtw@t.
I agree with you. But that can only realistically happen if the mods ban a sh1t load of people.Wyldfire said:The truly mature and quality men on this site need to stand up and take this site back.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
WRONG. You are a liberal feminist-in-denial.Wyldfire said:Masculism, just like feminism embraces victimhood, teaches excuse-making, weakness of character and fear and breed hatred.
Radicalism is evil, regardless of what form/cause it takes.
I'm neither a feminist or a masculinist...I'm a Humanist. That means I prefer to promote things that will benefit everyone, hurt none and make things better for everyone all at once. I don't feel compelled to fight against anyone...because I know more gets accomplished when everyone is on the same team.
:crackup:wayword said:...Problem is, American women are like Detroit auto in the 70s - overpriced, bloated and poor quality...
Well, it took a foreign automaker (Japan) to break the cozy domestic auto monopoly here in the 70s. Until that happened, there was no reason for any domestic maker to upgrade - in a limited market, people had to buy what they were selling. And were it not for the Japanese, we'd still all be driving 2-ton rustbuckets today.A-Unit said:Tell me, if the market produced CRAPPY autos, wouldn't an auto maker find a solution for this and profit by it? Are all women to be labeled as such just by being born within the boarders of our country?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.