"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Female self esteem issues
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
5string
Master Don Juan
Exactly, there are even studies that prove that the lower the self-esteem of a girl the early she lose her virginity while its the opposite for guys.5string said:Don't fool yourselves. Women with very low self esteem are the ones who have really slept around. Count on it. They define their self worth by the sexual attention they receive from men and will give it up readily.
So yes as 5 said dont fool yourselves and do not think that a certain trait brings the same conseguences in both the sexes.
So what? It doesn't matter how many other men a woman has slept with unless you're looking for a serious relationship. The absolute worst kinds of women are unattractive ones with high self-esteem. I'd take casual sex low-self esteem slvt over any kind of interaction with high-self esteem ugly/old b!tch any day of the week.5string said:Don't fool yourselves. Women with very low self esteem are the ones who have really slept around. Count on it. They define their self worth by the sexual attention they receive from men and will give it up readily.
5string
Master Don Juan
Well, that's your preference then. Personally, I'll take a high quality woman who shows me respect, is very attractive and fvcks like a bunny.PappyS said:So what? It doesn't matter how many other men a woman has slept with unless you're looking for a serious relationship. The absolute worst kinds of women are unattractive ones with high self-esteem. I'd take casual sex low-self esteem slvt over any kind of interaction with high-self esteem ugly/old b!tch any day of the week.
You can have the slvts.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I don't think this is really big news. Someone with low self-esteem will seek external validation through others. For women, its usually attention/sex from men.5string said:Don't fool yourselves. Women with very low self esteem are the ones who have really slept around. Count on it. They define their self worth by the sexual attention they receive from men and will give it up readily.
But I don't think all women who give it up readily suffer from low self-esteem. Correlation does not necessarily imply causation. There are plenty of LSE chicks who will withhold sex as a weapon to obtain a relationship or other favors. Plus the women who suffer from body image issues which prevents them from being intimate with another person.
On the flip side....there are women who "give it up" simply because they think you're attractive, want to have sex with you, and don't want to play any games. I don't think this is necessarily reflective of low self-esteem but rather an individual's sexual preferences.
I think a better approach would be to ask what exactly motivates a particular woman's level of promiscuity (or lack of) rather than painting them in one broad brush.