You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I can see where you were going with this, but I would have sent a smart-a$$ remark to show her you're not taking her email seriously. Now you're playing into her game, now she has the power. If you would have sent her the remark I suggested above, or one like it, you would still have control/power of the situation.
I would have said....'haha, yeah right! I saw your a$$ working at Taco Bell'Originally posted by wcknightjr
Hey, at least this chick didn't tell you she was in the CIA, like one chick just did to me
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. If the only thing you can do is to give "smart ass" remarks, how does it prove that you're more than just a testicle-less joker?
You think that's the most ridiculous thing you've ever heard? That's nothing, check this out. Basically, she's telling him that he doesn't 'qualify' to be with her, he failed 'her' test. Now, that being said, who has the power? It's not him, that's for sure. Now, if he turns around and responds the way I suggested, he's showing her that he doesn't care for her or her dumb test. If you wouldn't concentrate so much on the words that are being delivered, but the actual 'message', you would actually get what I'm saying.
.She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.