"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Female Mental Well Being

The Duke

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I've finally realized that there are 3 traits a female needs to have for me to stay with her long term. Those are physical attractiveness, emotional control, and self-esteem. The higher a woman ranks in these categories the more I enjoy her company and less problems I have. I started a thread the other day about how to make relationships last long term and after further thinking believe that emotional control and self-esteem are key ingredients for a successful relationship. The girls that disappoint me always lack in emotional control/self-esteem.

On a scale of 1-10 with 1 being low emotional control and 10 being high emotional control, what would you rate the average for the women that have been IN LOVE WITH YOU?

How about self-esteem? 1 = low self esteem, 2 = high self esteem.

What about physical attractiveness? 1 = ugly, 10 = hot.

For me I'd say 6.5 is the average for emotional control. For me to stay attracted long term I expect more like 8.5. My exwife was a 9 and I think that's why we got a long so well. I've had one other girl that was up there as well. But these types are hard to find. I often hear girls tell me that I have high expectations in regards to their behavior.

For self-esteem, most average around 7.0. Again the two girls I had with higher self control also had higher self esteem(8.5) than the rest.

For physical attractiveness the average is 8.0.

The 3 most attractive girls I have ever been with (HB9's) all were confident on the surface but had low self-esteem underneath it all. Their quest for personal beauty could never be satisfied. At the end of the day I got tired of boosting them up so they could feel better for that moment in time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm feeling saucy so I'll poke the bear and rate myself:

Emotional Control: 8/10 (see any number of threads here, lol)
Self Esteem: 8+/10
Physical Attractiveness: 8+/10 (anywhere really from a 7.5 to a 9.5 depending on preferences, as appearance is rather subjective)

OK time for bed. Enough silliness for one evening :)
 
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