I’ve only worked for two female managers in my life.
The first was a Sri Lankan woman I worked with at a wine store during college. She was around 22 and already married. Most of our shifts together were laid-back since q we we’d just shoot the ****. She often brought up why I wasn’t married to my girlfriend at the time and talked about the benefits of getting married young. Sometimes she’d mention how great her husband was. As a manager, she let you do whatever you wanted as long as you didn’t get her into trouble. I didn’t have any issues with her, aside from the fact that she’d occasionally change the schedule without telling anyone, which left us without coverage some days. She was a bit out to lunch sometimes, but overall, things ran fine.
The other was my first manager in a corporate job, working in customer service. She was the complete opposite, condescending, rude, and seemed to think she was better than everyone else. She never gave anyone the time of day and treated her team like they were part of her personal Girl Scouts troop with all of them signals (she was high up in that organization). Eventually, people started quitting, and she was let go.
Besides those two, I’ve had four or five other managers, all male, and only had issues with one of them. So I don’t think it’s about gender. Some people just let power get to their head, and regardless of gender, they can be ****holes.