Female here asking for advice from guys

[frivolousz21]

You're thinking like an AFC when you say "a relationship that starts with sex won't last". That is the complete opposite of the truth.

we have a winner!

 

[CrotchSniffer]

The worst thing you can do in a relationship is FORCE somebody to spend time with you. If the love is real, you will naturally make time for each other. Think about it.

Sometimes you gotta learn to chill the fukk out and just................be...............patient.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Extreme clingy chick, are you allowing him to enter your inner sanctum? (Is he sexing you?)

 

[Centaurion]

You have been friends with him for 1(2?) year(s) and been gf/bf for 2 months and you still havnt had sex with him!?

thats your problem right there.

 

[AMF]

Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva

I am sorry but I have enough respect for myself who NOT sleep with any man that makes me his girlfriend....

Do you know the difference between lust and love??!?!?!?!?

Listen.

When people use the term "relationship", they might mean a friendship, a relationship with their mum, a teacher, a pet. Anything.

The word "relationship" is unclear.

When people mean "something more than just a freindship" - like yours with your so-called "boyfriend" - the actual, perfectly appropriate term (even in legal speak) is "intimate relationship". Did you hear that? I said INTIMATE.

THE ONLY THING SEPARATING A FRIENDSHIP FROM A INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP IS... INTIMACY.

TO A MAN THAT MEANS PHYSICAL, SEXUAL INTIMACY. NOT "MEETING THE FAMILY", NOT "LATE NIGHT TALKS", NOT "CONFIDING AND TRUSTING", NOT "HAVING A LAUGH".

Got it?

THIS GUY IS NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND. END OF.

 

[Now What]

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[tmpgstx]

Two months and no sex is nothing if he really wants her. He'll wait. If he is more shallow, is a good test and he will flee seeking what is more important to him .. sex and not the person.

Sex right away IS short-term and if it goes long term, only results in a fiasco.

Relationships built on trust and friendship with good strong mutual attraction physically and mentally is what makes for the best most long lasting relationships out there. They often become the best marriages too.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi

And BTW, this is not meant to be a flame, but 125lbs. is pushing maximum density at 5'1".

That's only true if her body fat percentage is high. Since she rides motorcycles there's a good chance she's got more muscle.

Weight is irrelevent when it comes to how in or out of shape a person is. It's the same thing with men. I've known 6 foot guys who weighed 250 lbs and were all muscle and I've known 6 foot guys who weighed 250 lbs and were fat. It's not the actual weight that is important, it's whether it's muscle mass or body fat.

 

[Ebach]

We can't give you advice just like you can't give us advice. We're we, and you're you. We are different. We don't know what the **** is on your boyfriend's mind nor how you two get along with each other.

The advice we get from women is just bull****. It's what society dictates women should be after. Each woman is different like each man is different. Some men like big boobs, other like small boobs. Some like big booty, other likes small booty.

We don't know what the **** is going on with your relationship. What's the problem anyway? You want him to be locked in the house with you all the time? Is that it?

 

[MetalFortress]

Half of these dudes give stupid as hell advice (like the ones who portray guys as machiavellian beings who are only in it for sex). X, you would be best off listening to other women.

 

[XtremeRacingDiva]

Here's an update...

I talked to him on Friday and asked him what his weekend is going to be like...

He says he's going to be going to a wake on Friday and 2 funerals on Saturday....

*edit* I also asked him if he needed me to come and support him... uhh he said NOPE..being the good girlfriend that I am I just said ok...

The whole weekend I didnt received one call from him at all.....I called him this morning and asked him to meet me for dinner because I have something important to tell him and for him to bring all my spare keys...Also that I was pissed off due to the fact that I was locked out of my apartment because I lost all my keys because they fell out my pocket while riding my bike...

And the only dumba$$ with a spare was him but luckily he didnt pick up his damn phone when I called him. Seeing that I had to go stay at a friends house untill I got a hold of him.

And actually never did get a hold of him some of my buddies came over and climbed through my window.

But today is the big day where I dump his a$$ at dinner.

Wish me luck

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
Here's an update...

...But today is the big day where I dump his a$$ at dinner.

Wish me luck

Well guys? Comments, anyone?

 

[JackPrescott]

Want him back Diva? Simply start dating other men who are sexually into you, and let him know about it!

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
Here's an update...

I talked to him on Friday and asked him what his weekend is going to be like...

He says he's going to be going to a wake on Friday and 2 funerals on Saturday....

*edit* I also asked him if he needed me to come and support him... uhh he said NOPE..being the good girlfriend that I am I just said ok...

The whole weekend I didnt received one call from him at all.....I called him this morning and asked him to meet me for dinner because I have something important to tell him and for him to bring all my spare keys...Also that I was pissed off due to the fact that I was locked out of my apartment because I lost all my keys because they fell out my pocket while riding my bike...

And the only dumba$$ with a spare was him but luckily he didnt pick up his damn phone when I called him. Seeing that I had to go stay at a friends house untill I got a hold of him.

And actually never did get a hold of him some of my buddies came over and climbed through my window.

But today is the big day where I dump his a$$ at dinner.

Wish me luck

You have a mental problem. Why are you going to dump a guy that had to go to a wake on the weekend?

You are blaming this guy for your own negligence. You only have yourself to blame for getting locked out of your house.

You are nothing but a selfish little hoe that is only good for one thing.

The reason this guy isn't interested in you is your own damn fault.

I wouldn't be interested in you either.

 

[XtremeRacingDiva]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
You have a mental problem. Why are you going to dump a guy that had to go to a wake on the weekend?

You are blaming this guy for your own negligence. You only have yourself to blame for getting locked out of your house.

You are nothing but a selfish little hoe that is only good for one thing.

The reason this guy isn't interested in you is your own damn fault.

I wouldn't be interested in you either.

lol so harsh ... tsk tsk.. and BTW does it make you feel better to call others names??? Can we all be adults here?

If you had actually read the post you would of figured out that.. that one weekend was not the problem..it was every weekend he came up with some new excuse.

Blaming him for getting locked out LOL I blame him for not being a boyfriend. For guys with girlfriends during the weekend how many times do you call your girlfriend to check if she is still alive? once ...twice...

LOOK I am not trying to spend 24/7 with him but it would be nice to hear from him every once in a while. Seeing that I gave him the spare key for a reason... I thought he would be a real boyfriend and be there for me...

Selfish yes... hoe ..no because he surely didnt get any booty....

but updating the situation seeing as I had the dinner date with him... Yes I suggested that we go back to being friends only..... yeah he put up a fight about it... but I made it very clear to him that when he starts acting like a boyfriend then he can get the position back. Otherwise dont waste his time and mines. Yeah I may seem a little snobbish but I gave him 2 months and yet he fail to do so.

 

[00Kevin]

I'm strongly considering not providing advice to women anymore.

They just don't listen anyway.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
You have a mental problem. Why are you going to dump a guy that had to go to a wake on the weekend?

You are blaming this guy for your own negligence. You only have yourself to blame for getting locked out of your house.

You are nothing but a selfish little hoe that is only good for one thing.

The reason this guy isn't interested in you is your own damn fault.

I wouldn't be interested in you either.

Kevin, are you sure that you've read her other posts? Everything that you've accused her of doing, he has done to her on a regular basis.

***DISCLAIMER - If you are a guy that is easily offended and feel that any perceived negative comments about men in general is a direct attack upon you, please discontinue reading this post...

I may be off base in my assumption, but it seems that much of the "advice" that is given in this forum is not necessarily for the benefit of the person requesting information. More times than not, the advice is based upon reactionary feelings of the people replying based upon unresolved issues that are similar to the resistor's.

Many times we respond without understanding the situation, especially when it's a woman asking for help. It may be because of a sense of male solidarity, comradely or whatever you want to call it, but as long as we have an 'US vs. THEM' attitude, we limit our own effectiveness.

The purpose of this board is guys to gain insight on how to understand women by gaining a better understanding of ourselves and our capabilities. Yes, a woman looking for advice is not the purpose of Sosuave however, their problems with men actually point out the areas where we as men can adjust to gain control of ourselves and possibly become more attractive to women.

Shooting down anything that seems negative serves no purpose other than protecting our egos. If we feel that we still need to protect our egos, have we actually learned anything about ourselves?

Just something to consider....

The preceding post is the perspective of the poster and not necessarily that of the moderators nor the owners of this forum. The poster takes sole responsibility for the probability of pissing off people who are set in their own personal beliefs...

LET THE FLAMING COMMENCE!!!

 

[frivolousz21]

Fransico!

that is Genuis! I should retire from here.

you need to take over! seriously...that is just amazing insite.


that sums up a lot of us..and even i do that at times!

good post

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

I may be off base in my assumption, but it seems that much of the "advice" that is given in this forum is not necessarily for the benefit of the person requesting information. More times than not, the advice is based upon reactionary feelings of the people replying based upon unresolved issues that are similar to the resistor's. Many times we respond without understanding the situation, especially when it's a woman asking for help. It may be because of a sense of male solidarity, comradely or whatever you want to call it, but as long as we have an 'US vs. THEM' attitude, we limit our own effectiveness. The purpose of this board is guys to gain insight on how to understand women by gaining a better understanding of ourselves and our capabilities. Yes, a woman looking for advice is not the purpose of Sosuave however, their problems with men actually point out the areas where we as men can adjust to gain control of ourselves and possibly become more attractive to women. Shooting down anything that seems negative serves no purpose other than protecting our egos. If we feel that we still need to protect our egos, have we actually learned anything about ourselves? Just something to consider....

Give that man a cake

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
lol so harsh ... tsk tsk.. and BTW does it make you feel better to call others names??? Can we all be adults here?

If you had actually read the post you would of figured out that.. that one weekend was not the problem..it was every weekend he came up with some new excuse.

Blaming him for getting locked out LOL I blame him for not being a boyfriend. For guys with girlfriends during the weekend how many times do you call your girlfriend to check if she is still alive? once ...twice...

LOOK I am not trying to spend 24/7 with him but it would be nice to hear from him every once in a while. Seeing that I gave him the spare key for a reason... I thought he would be a real boyfriend and be there for me...

Selfish yes... hoe ..no because he surely didnt get any booty....

but updating the situation seeing as I had the dinner date with him... Yes I suggested that we go back to being friends only..... yeah he put up a fight about it... but I made it very clear to him that when he starts acting like a boyfriend then he can get the position back. Otherwise dont waste his time and mines. Yeah I may seem a little snobbish but I gave him 2 months and yet he fail to do so.

welll... no I didn't read your posts all that much. Now that I have.. I'll take back everything but one part.

I still think you are a little hoe